Quote From: cmcdowell6I too also had to collect a large amount of money from my ex-husband. We were married for 10 years and had adopted a little girl. He felt that if he no longer wanted to see her and since she was not her real father that he should not have to pay child support. It took me two years to finally track him down.
I live in Tulsa, OK where we have what is called the Rocket docket. I feel every county/state should have this system. (I tried going throught the state to collect my child support but they told me that if I was not receving any money from the state that I was not a priority.) So, I hired an attorney and had the ex served with papers to show up in court. He pled not guilty so it had to be set for trial. Withing 30 days, we were back in front of the jude. Of course I had all my documentaiotn and could prove that he did owe me back child support. The judge haned down a 6 month defered sentence and sat him up on a payment plan to pay his child support. This was done straight from his payroll check of the employer that he worked for. Within 30 days, I was receiving checks from his place of work. Every 3 months we have to go back before the judge. If he is not making payments he would go to jail. I was holding $500.00 in day care receipts and I showed up for court and not him. (He thought that because his employer was submitting payment it was ok not to show.) Since he did not show up and he was not paying the daycare and medical that was due, the Judge order a warrant for his arreast and fined him $500.00. They picked him up at his place of employment and he had to sit in jail until the total amount of back child support was paid in full.
Your topic is Dead Beat Dad. Well how about a Dead Beat Mom. I have had primary physical custody of my daughter since she was 3. My ex signed the papers giving me the primary custody because she wanted to be with her boyfriend in Maryland. We live in Indiana. At that time she was suppose to start paying $65.00 per week child suppose. She paid the first year, but when she returned from Maryland, she wanted our daughter back. I told her no, so she took me to court. The court ruled in my favor and he has done the other 3 times he has taken me to court. She had not paid support since my daughter was 4. Each time she takes me to court the judge asks her if she pays support she says no and nothing is done. She is either on welfare or she quits her job when she knows I am going to push for support. I pay all her school costs, clothing costs, in other words everything. So I know what you are going through. I am at the point, I have to go to the prosecutor and file papers. However, the last court appearance she had me at cost me $30,000 so right now I don't have the money to push it. Hope it works out for you.
