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Quote From: gonecrazy2

I have a son who is 21 and without a job, car, on drugs, lies, steals, and is tearing my family apart.  I remarried 8 years ago to a wonderful man.  I had two sons that he adopted after we married.  The oldest one has never been close to any man.  We are so close that he tells me almost every thing he does.  My trouble is that we have been so close that I can not let him go.  He moved out of our house and into a unfinished building next to us.  (it is still on our property)  He has stolen from my husband and his brother and they both hate him.  He can not live with his biological father because he still lives at home, and all they do is fight anyway.  My husband and youngest son have refused to let my son stay on the property anymore.  We have kicked in out several times and he has left on his own several times but he keeps coming back.  I have to raise hell for a while to get them to let him stay and each time he stabs me in the back by stealing something from one of them or just from our house.  So the fight begins again.  I am always the one in the middle.  If they have some dispute about each other, they tell me to tell the other one.  Anyway we are to this point,  he is back with no place to go, and my husband refuses to let him stay, so can anyone help me to have peace of mind in agreeing with my husband about kicking him out.  Need help.