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June 6, 2007, 10:18 am PDT
Dating After 40
Quote From: faithypooYou need to do more than "survive pretty well". Get rid of him sister!! He does not want help. I am a recovered alcoholic, haven;t had a drink in 16 1/2 years and believe me, unless he sees and wants help on his own for himself, he's not going to listen to you. You've been divorced twice, I'm going on 3rd divorce (and not happy or proud about it), but it's time for healthy relationships in our lives at our age!! You are not married to this man and owe him nothing. Try to seek some peace and contentment in your life. You do ot need the stress of this mans problems in your life!! It's a no win situation when you are involved with some one with dependency issues. Staying and thinking you can fix it, only enables them to continue to abuse. I know as I grew up in a home where my mother stayed and enabled my drunken father to drink. I have been told because of the way I was raised I am a co-dependent and I see it now in the relationships I have had with men, I enable them to abuse and use the chemicals of choice. I have been single now for 3 years and am happy with my life. I haven't given up on finding someone. I have just given up on looking so hard to find him. If he is out there then we will find each other when the time is right.
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