Quote From: lanav404What bothers me most is that my relationship with my boyfriend is amazing. He treats me so well and we have a very respectful relationship. It's something I am very proud of. My parents are so stuck in their stupid ways that they could never be happy for me. My parents paid for my brother's entire education and never asked for a dime from him. He is ten years older than I am and now that I am attending a university, they will not pay for mine. I always felt like they were more proud of him than me. I wish I could just move out and forget about their evil words but something inside of me will be so empty if I just try to move on without my parents behind me. Even though I feel like they have never truly been behind me unless I was doing everything they wanted me to do, it's a strange feeling. I guess no matter what happened, I so badly wanted a perfect family and was willing to do anything to believe I had one.
going to be more explanative, and you may not like it. Are your parents Russian born and been here only a short time or born here. Your parents ways are not 'stupid' That is their ways. They are embracing the old ways because that is where their comfort is. You feel comfortable in the new ways and they either or don't like them or are afraid of them. Never, Never ever loose your respect for your parents - believe me they will be there if you need them, but you have every right to live life your way.
Ya know why they paid for your bothers education and not yours - he is a male and in a lot of European/Eastern societies, the male is honored, and the female is a female, and I have a feeling that is the thinking of your parents - remember Russia is Eastern Europe.
You are going to have to please yourself and at the same time honor and respect your parents, even if from a distance. Why are you striving for a perfect family when not one perfect family exits.
Rog
