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Quote From: shephforever21

I have a similar situation.  we have been married 17 years and have 2 daughters, 14 and 8.  I thought we had a great marriage up unti 2 weeks ago.  He kept saying that he has been unhappy for a year.  It is so strange to me, since we just got back from a vacation to california in apri and had a great time.  I though am not sure if he has found someone else or not.  he has become very sneaky with his blackberry and is on it all the time.  I took it to look in it the other day, and he became very agitated that he could not find it where he had left it.  Needless to say I did not get a chance to look at it before he noticed it was gone.  He just moved out yesterday, to see if he could figure things out.  He says he still loves me but not like a husband should love his wife.  I am distraught and angry.  We did start marriage counseling, but are christians and went to a christian marriage counselor.  He suggested we not go back to him, becuase the counselor only says this marriage can be fixed, that God intended marriage for a lifetime.  He wants to go to a regular marriage counselor, only so he does not have to be accountable.  His job requires frequent travels to New York City and he works with alot of women who are very fashion conscious and make alot of money.  He makes really good money and thinks he would like to live there.  I told him we could move there with him to keep the familly together, but he says that would mess the kids up, like divorce will not.  I guess even christian men do not have to honor there vows, my husband was even a deacon in our church.  I do not know what to do, because like yourself it came as a complete shock to me.  I love him very much and planned on spending the rest of my life with him.