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My husband keeps saying the same things to me. He calls me names. We aggreed that I would stay home and watch our kids but now he says I do nothing all day but lay around the house. That is totally false. He says I am like certain members of my family. He compares me to them. He even belittles me in front of our friends, his friends, and our children. I have one good friend that I talk to and she agrees that it isnt right what he does. He says that I am crazy and need to be on medication. He is the one that has the problem. He drinks to the point that he gets sick. I am told that I am the reason that we are where we are today. I have thought about leaving him and doing it on my own but my children need their father. HE has hit me, told me he would kill me and yet I stay. I told him I wanted a divorce He told me I was free to go but the kids were to stay with him. I told him no. I feel trapped and depressed. I am not the person that I was 12 yrs ago. I have been made to feel worthless. My family and friends have told me to leave him. I want to but am afraid that if i did I dont know what he might do. I do believe I am crazy because I have stayed in this relationship for so long. He tells people that we haven't had sex. I dont want to do it with a guy that calls me a fat lazy slob and smells like alcohol. He Thinks that I should do it no matter what he calls me or says. He calls me a liar even when I tell him things he has done or said. . He tries to get close and I push him away because quite frankly he disqusts me. He has told me that if he didnt get it at home he would go elsewhere. I told him go. but when you find that someone dont come home. When we were first married he cheated on my on more than one occasion. I believed the lies he told me because I was young and nieve. I should have left him our first year of marriage but I was young and he said the right things. I also would not have had my beautiful children I know I am not making much sense. SOrry to be ranting. I think he might be cheating on me but I dont have proof.  At this point, I dont care. I hope he finds someone so he will leave me alone.

After our 2nd was born he told me that he did not love me and the only reason that he stays with me is because he did not want to pay child support. I feel the same way now. I do not love him either. I have thought about seeing a lawyer but I fear that If I did that he would either do something to me or take one of  my children and leave the state.  I moved closer to my family so I may be able to leave him but that would mean i have to admit failure. I was raised by a single mom and I am afraid of being one. Even though there have been times in this marriage that I have felt as such. I hope I am making sense.

My husband keeps saying the same things to me. He calls me names. We aggreed that I would stay home and watch our kids but now he says I do nothing all day but lay around the house. That is totally false. He says I am like certain members of my family. He compares me to them. He even belittles me in front of our friends, his friends, and our children. I have one good friend that I talk to and she agrees that it isnt right what he does. He says that I am crazy and need to be on medication. He is the one that has the problem. He drinks to the point that he gets sick. I am told that I am the reason that we are where we are today. I have thought about leaving him and doing it on my own but my children need their father. HE has hit me, told me he would kill me and yet I stay. I told him I wanted a divorce He told me I was free to go but the kids were to stay with him. I told him no. I feel trapped and depressed. I am not the person that I was 12 yrs ago. I have been made to feel worthless. My family and friends have told me to leave him. I want to but am afraid that if i did I dont know what he might do. I do believe I am crazy because I have stayed in this relationship for so long. He tells people that we haven't had sex. I dont want to do it with a guy that calls me a fat lazy slob and smells like alcohol. He Thinks that I should do it no matter what he calls me or says. He calls me a liar even when I tell him things he has done or said. . He tries to get close and I push him away because quite frankly he disqusts me. He has told me that if he didnt get it at home he would go elsewhere. I told him go. but when you find that someone dont come home. When we were first married he cheated on my on more than one occasion. I believed the lies he told me because I was young and nieve. I should have left him our first year of marriage but I was young and he said the right things. I also would not have had my beautiful children I know I am not making much sense. SOrry to be ranting. I think he might be cheating on me but I dont have proof.  At this point, I dont care. I hope he finds someone so he will leave me alone.

After our 2nd was born he told me that he did not love me and the only reason that he stays with me is because he did not want to pay child support. I feel the same way now. I do not love him either. I have thought about seeing a lawyer but I fear that If I did that he would either do something to me or take one of  my children and leave the state.  I moved closer to my family so I may be able to leave him but that would mean i have to admit failure. I was raised by a single mom and I am afraid of being one. Even though there have been times in this marriage that I have felt as such. I hope I am making sense.

My husband keeps saying the same things to me. He calls me names. We aggreed that I would stay home and watch our kids but now he says I do nothing all day but lay around the house. That is totally false. He says I am like certain members of my family. He compares me to them. He even belittles me in front of our friends, his friends, and our children. I have one good friend that I talk to and she agrees that it isnt right what he does. He says that I am crazy and need to be on medication. He is the one that has the problem. He drinks to the point that he gets sick. I am told that I am the reason that we are where we are today. I have thought about leaving him and doing it on my own but my children need their father. HE has hit me, told me he would kill me and yet I stay. I told him I wanted a divorce He told me I was free to go but the kids were to stay with him. I told him no. I feel trapped and depressed. I am not the person that I was 12 yrs ago. I have been made to feel worthless. My family and friends have told me to leave him. I want to but am afraid that if i did I dont know what he might do. I do believe I am crazy because I have stayed in this relationship for so long. He tells people that we haven't had sex. I dont want to do it with a guy that calls me a fat lazy slob and smells like alcohol. He Thinks that I should do it no matter what he calls me or says. He calls me a liar even when I tell him things he has done or said. . He tries to get close and I push him away because quite frankly he disqusts me. He has told me that if he didnt get it at home he would go elsewhere. I told him go. but when you find that someone dont come home. When we were first married he cheated on my on more than one occasion. I believed the lies he told me because I was young and nieve. I should have left him our first year of marriage but I was young and he said the right things. I also would not have had my beautiful children I know I am not making much sense. SOrry to be ranting. I think he might be cheating on me but I dont have proof.  At this point, I dont care. I hope he finds someone so he will leave me alone.

After our 2nd was born he told me that he did not love me and the only reason that he stays with me is because he did not want to pay child support. I feel the same way now. I do not love him either. I have thought about seeing a lawyer but I fear that If I did that he would either do something to me or take one of  my children and leave the state.  I moved closer to my family so I may be able to leave him but that would mean i have to admit failure. I was raised by a single mom and I am afraid of being one. Even though there have been times in this marriage that I have felt as such. I hope I am making sense.