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June 17, 2007, 9:36 am PDT
 Quote From: savagechezz I mostly have a question and seek an OPINION other than MY own. I have a sister whom I care for very dearly. She has gone from relationship to relationship, even while still in a relationship. she has actually cheated and done every guy she has been with wrong. She is married at the moment, but cheated on the guy so much, that he went mad or crazy in a way. She went on vacation with her cheating lover to California, we being in Texas. She has a 3 girls and 1 boy, a 13 year old, a 11 year old, a 10 year old and a 7 going on 8 year old son. She used to take her daughters with her to do her husband wrong. The daughters know of almost every guy she cheated on him with, and have at one time or another met the lovers. Well we were all shocked to find out, that the LAST time she went out of state on vacation with one of her lovers, her husband molested the 3 girls, and actually had sex with 2 of them. Yes he is incarcerated at moment, but she, INSTEAD of helping her kids out through this,, JUST moved in her lover, and just last week paid 6,000 dollars to get her tubes UN-Tied to give this new guy some kids. So in 4 months, she came from vacation, admitted to husband she was having numerous affairs, husband molested the girls, she locked him up, same day he was out, lover moved in, gave him a 2007 Cadillac and paid 6,000 to get tubes un-tied.. NOW, am I the ONLY one who sees a BIG problem here.. Am I wrong to worry and BUTT IN into her life, or should I cut her off. I am tired and sickened from all of this. I know she need help, WELL that is MY opinion.. Please send advice she is looking for love and acceptance.from anyone that will give it to her,yes she needs some help and abandoning her will not help. it will make the problem worse, just be there when the pieces fall apart,because they will they always do, |
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June 17, 2007, 1:04 pm PDT
Quote From: savagechezz I mostly have a question and seek an OPINION other than MY own. I have a sister whom I care for very dearly. She has gone from relationship to relationship, even while still in a relationship. she has actually cheated and done every guy she has been with wrong. She is married at the moment, but cheated on the guy so much, that he went mad or crazy in a way. She went on vacation with her cheating lover to California, we being in Texas. She has a 3 girls and 1 boy, a 13 year old, a 11 year old, a 10 year old and a 7 going on 8 year old son. She used to take her daughters with her to do her husband wrong. The daughters know of almost every guy she cheated on him with, and have at one time or another met the lovers. Well we were all shocked to find out, that the LAST time she went out of state on vacation with one of her lovers, her husband molested the 3 girls, and actually had sex with 2 of them. Yes he is incarcerated at moment, but she, INSTEAD of helping her kids out through this,, JUST moved in her lover, and just last week paid 6,000 dollars to get her tubes UN-Tied to give this new guy some kids. So in 4 months, she came from vacation, admitted to husband she was having numerous affairs, husband molested the girls, she locked him up, same day he was out, lover moved in, gave him a 2007 Cadillac and paid 6,000 to get tubes un-tied.. NOW, am I the ONLY one who sees a BIG problem here.. Am I wrong to worry and BUTT IN into her life, or should I cut her off. I am tired and sickened from all of this. I know she need help, WELL that is MY opinion.. Please send advice No you aren’t the only one who sees a big problem here!! Your sister’s husband is in jail for molesting the children, are the children receiving any counseling? Those girls need and deserve to have professional help. Without it, they will grow up thinking that they did something to deserve what their father did to them. Their mother is very self-absorbed and she isn’t looking out for their best interests, that is why you should consider getting involved. Do you live nearby? Do you have a good relationship with your sister? Is it possible for you to sit down and have a rational talk with her about the life-long consequences her precious children are going to suffer because of what happened to them? If it is possible, I urge you to remain calm and rational while talking to her, and remain on topic. Don’t allow her to change the topic to something else when the subject gets tough for her. She will try to do that so that she doesn’t have to deal with these serious issues. The reason she had her tubes untied and wants to have more children is so that she will have distractions in her life, so that she won’t have to deal with the issues that she has created. She sounds so self absorbed and immature. My advice to you is to reach out to your nieces. Develop a life-long bond with them by showing them compassion, let them know that you love them and that you want to see them live happy, productive lives. Encourage them in activities that they are good in, be their soft place to fall. |
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