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June 20, 2007, 12:02 am PDT
 Quote From: jaimie1974 No you arent the only one who sees a big problem here!! Your sisters husband is in jail for molesting the children, are the children receiving any counseling? Those girls need and deserve to have professional help. Without it, they will grow up thinking that they did something to deserve what their father did to them. Their mother is very self-absorbed and she isnt looking out for their best interests, that is why you should consider getting involved. Do you live nearby? Do you have a good relationship with your sister? Is it possible for you to sit down and have a rational talk with her about the life-long consequences her precious children are going to suffer because of what happened to them? If it is possible, I urge you to remain calm and rational while talking to her, and remain on topic. Dont allow her to change the topic to something else when the subject gets tough for her. She will try to do that so that she doesnt have to deal with these serious issues. The reason she had her tubes untied and wants to have more children is so that she will have distractions in her life, so that she wont have to deal with the issues that she has created. She sounds so self absorbed and immature. My advice to you is to reach out to your nieces. Develop a life-long bond with them by showing them compassion, let them know that you love them and that you want to see them live happy, productive lives. Encourage them in activities that they are good in, be their soft place to fall. I honestly told her, "I believe you need to take your girls to get some form of counseling". for although they may look or act normal, like nothing ever happened,, DOES not mean that every thing is ok. BUT she said she will just have the dad locked up, and that was it. What hurt me, or shocked me even more was.. That the SAME day he moved out, she moved her new boyfriend in. I was like "sis, you need to be trying to help your girls, AND stay out of ANY form of relationship with boyfriends". Your girls need you, and they see you out with new guys and moving them in. They might end up doing same and EVEN worst? They are going to act and feel or think that is is OK for any guy to do as he wants with them. She just said,, "they are ok now".. She lives across town from me, I try to see her and call her, but even that, she avoids me. I did get to see my nieces, and I spoke with them. I re-assured them that Uncle Shelter is there for them NO MATTER what. All they have to do is call me, and do not ever think they did anything wrong. Speaking out, was the BRAVEST thing they could of done, and I am proud of them. It has ben more than a month now, I have not seen them. My sister tries to avoid the world. HECK, the day after she found out the girls were touched, she tried to LEAVE them at MY house, BECAUSE she and her new boyfriend were going on another vacation for 3 days.. I was like sis, you can leave them here, BUT I do not feel or think it is right for you NOT to be here as well. I personally think it is HER that needs more help then the girls. She acts as if its already a dead issue. But I do not kow what else or more I can do |
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