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This has nothing to do with your intelligence; smart people fall in love with alcoholics as well as not smart people. Also, you know all of this mans positive qualities; that is why you fell in love with him - YOU are the one who will be living with him, dealing with his addiction on a daily basis; not anyone else. That is why you cant allow what other people (your family) might say about you knowingly being with someone who is an alcoholic. You cant allow what you think others might say about you to have influence over your decisions; at this point in your life, youve got to live for yourself, because hopefully you have discovered that you and only you are responsible for your happiness.

Have you discussed alcohol treatment with your boyfriend? You are probably hesitant to talk to him about it because you are ready to hear his excuses for why he doesnt need to go, etc. Your best option would be to research treatment facilities in the area where he lives, get enough information so that when he brings up an excuse as for why he cant go, you can counter that excuse with a reason why he CAN go. It is possible that he could go into an out-patient treatment program so that he would attend intensive therapy but also be able to go to work, etc. He needs to learn how to un-do his life-long habit of having a few drinks.

If your fiance isnt willing to consider quitting, youve got to be realistic. You need to look out for your own best interests, because if you dont, then who will? I wish you the best.