Quote From: lsinitdon't wrry about seeming too bossy. I guess to me the biggest thing is, like i said, "understanding" too much; even when it hurts me; I WILL NOT tolerate hurting ones I love. i seem to feel i can absorb hurt better than others, so i let myself be hurt rather than hurt someone. i really just don't have a clue how to NOT be understanding & @ the same time not feel like i am overreacting - esp when my sense of "understanding why" kicks in; or whose wrong - i really good @ finding a way to blame myself for what happened. Not accepting blame/responsibility are probably the LEAST of my faults - if they even exist w/in me.
You are obviously a very empathetic and caring person. That's not a bad thing you can help, but it seems to me that you have been helping so much it hurts! If you accept blame for a situation than you can control it, and fix it. I used to have this problem. It still rears its ugly head but I keep it in check most of the time.
