Quote From: lpnmathiasNot wanting to get married doesn't mean he doesn't love you. I am with an absolutely wonderful man right now. Have been for 16 months now. I am planning on moving in with him within the next 2 months. We have both been married and divorced 3 times......neither of us has the desire to go down that road again. It is true what they say.....marriage, for some reason, seems to change relationships. If you love him.....be happy with him. Marriage is only a piece of paper. It's what's in your hearts that really matters.
I agree with you 100%!!!! Marriage DOES change people...and sometimes, not for the better. I exited an over 20 year marriage..and swore I'd never do it again. I've been with my SO for almost 4 years now..living together for 2. The "m" word has come up...but he understands where I'm at, and says he'll take me however he can get me..marriage or no. It's the commitment that is the main concern, and we've got that in spades. We're more committed than most married people *I* know. This has been the healthiest relationship of my life. My daughter lived with her b/f for almost 4 years..then they got married. Not even one year later, they're on the verge of divorce and she's hunting a marriage counselor. I'm sure it doesn't do ALL people that way...but I haven't seen any exceptions yet. I actually knew a couple who'd lived together for 17 years, and got married. They divorced 2 years later. What is it? They need to do some studies on that, see what's up. I'm kinda curious myself.
If the commitment and dedication is there...don't sweat the rest.
