Quote From: kar_lotta Yes, you are right about that. Even her ex-husband tried to warn him. He wouldn't listen. He had a great relationship with his step-dad and he has always been for the under-dog. She used the kids as leverage and he did his best to be supportive and helpful to her kids. They (there were three of them) really loved my son and were upset to lose him as a dad. But, I am so glad he finally wised up and got the divorce. He commented after the divorce that he sure had never planned on being bankrupt and divorced by 21. He really thought he could make a difference in the life of the kids.
Of course, he didn't learn from his firt mistake. He married another gal, who had a little girl from a previous affair. This was someone he'd known since grade school. We tried to talk him out of this one, too, but ... Anyway to make a long story short, they married, she pushed for adoption from before they were married. She talked him into having himself fixed. (which he did because he was trying to make a go of the marriage, against his better judgement) She had to wait for a year to file adoption papers. The minute the adoption papers were signed and the ink dry, she filed for divorce, alimony and child support. She told him if he'd not protest the divorce, she'd have the adoption reversed. He was gullible and believed her. Guess what! He's now paying child support on a child that isn't his and won't be 18 until another 8 years. In the adoption papers, she told the judge that she had no idea where the biological dad was, which wasn't true. She knew where he was and that he has three or four other children and not supporting them either.
However, he is now married again, and thankfully, this time, I think it's going to work. They've been married 6 years now and seem to be doing good.
Marriage is hard work. There's an old saying: "
Marriage is made in Heaven"; however, the maintenance work is done on earth" .... too bad more people don't realize that first.
Sorry about that. You said before that you were tired of people calling a 19 year old man a child. I don't think of a 19 year old man as a child. Although, my kids are older than that and at my age they seem SO young I realize that they are not children. But I do think his age could have SOME bearing on the decisions he's made. Sometimes time and experience make us think before we do things. (And, in the process we DO tend to get older
