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July 2, 2007, 6:17 am PDT

07/03 Big Love

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I hear that constantly from my family- you need to lose weight it's not healthy on and on-

I'm 5'3" and currently at #225 I have been heavier after having my kids #280 tops and down as low as #140 but diets don't stick my lifestyle as a single mom, full time teacher and full time grad school student don't leave me much time to do much else but family, work and school.  My weight is up but my blood pressure is fine, cholesterol is fine and I feel OK with myself.  When I look in the mirror I see someone pretty I don't see the FAT person everyone else apparently sees. I notice it when I see a picture of myself but when I see it I don't believe that's me! I shop at Lane Bryant and am ok with myself.  I have had hard times dating and keeping a boyfriend but that was when both heavy and at my lightest of 140 so to me that shows size doesn't matter it's been my choice of guys.  Dr. Phil I want to know where these guys are and clubs are..so you can hook me up! They aren't in Reno Nevada!

Laurie :)

 

Have you spoken with your Dr. about your weight? How old are you? Being that heavy can begin to take a toll on your health rather quickly. It's almost guaranteed to effect your health and shorten your life.

I am glad you are confident in yourself and you don't hate yourself based simply on your weight, but the fact of the matter is, you are, if not now, going to become ill because of your weight. I am over weight, I am creeping towards 30 and it hit me when my very young husband got a bad cholesterol test back. Shocked us into healthy behavior and we are both losing weight now.

You say you are a single mom, so you are all your kids have...so you NEED TO, FOR THEM, take the time to take care of their mother, their most prized relationship. They deserve to have a mother who is there, healthy and alive for a long time. They deserve to have a long and less burdensome relationship with you.  I have a grandmother who has has diabetes since I was a little girl, because of it she cannot travel and so I cannot see her much. I have seen her 5-6 times in my whole life.

I know you might be fuming at me right now, but maybe, just maybe you'll think about this...you might be healthy now but that can change on a dime...my husband and I had a bit of a life-flashing-before-our-eyes moment...we've abused our bodies long enough.
 
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July 3, 2007, 1:59 pm PDT

07/03 Big Love

Quote From: twoschues2000

I hear that constantly from my family- you need to lose weight it's not healthy on and on-

I'm 5'3" and currently at #225 I have been heavier after having my kids #280 tops and down as low as #140 but diets don't stick my lifestyle as a single mom, full time teacher and full time grad school student don't leave me much time to do much else but family, work and school.  My weight is up but my blood pressure is fine, cholesterol is fine and I feel OK with myself.  When I look in the mirror I see someone pretty I don't see the FAT person everyone else apparently sees. I notice it when I see a picture of myself but when I see it I don't believe that's me! I shop at Lane Bryant and am ok with myself.  I have had hard times dating and keeping a boyfriend but that was when both heavy and at my lightest of 140 so to me that shows size doesn't matter it's been my choice of guys.  Dr. Phil I want to know where these guys are and clubs are..so you can hook me up! They aren't in Reno Nevada!

Laurie :)

 

 I think one of the worst thing about current attitudes towards weight is that almost everyone thinks in terms of making it down to insurance-chart weights, which isn't practical for everyone. Yet medical studies show that losing even 10% of your weight can make a big improvement in health. I think this is because you can lose that much by doing things that are healthful in themselves, such as eating better (more fiber, less fat and better fats, more plants, less sugar- and flour-based foods) and having regular physical activity.  If you have to go beyond that and be hungry to lose more weight, I personally don't think it's worth it. But since so many people think in terms of "that goal weight or nothing," people who could be living healthier lives aren't.

I think it's great that you're happy with yourself. I think you should make time to eat well and do some physical activity, because you do need that to be healthy, but not fret the scales. Frankly, you sound a lot like me: for me, trying to get to and stay around 140 was as tough as getting my graduate degree, and I decided it was of a lot less benefit to my life.
 
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