Quote From: flthomcatI am a stay-at-home, college-educated woman who taught high school for 9 years and was a felony parole officer for three. I was excellent in both positions, but I LOVE being a fulltime, hands-on Mom more than I loved either job.
MANY are great teachers and great parole officers, but NOBODY else can be the mother of our wonderful children! There is no better reward than spending quality time with growing, needy, loving children and LOVING every minute of it!!!
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With that said, I have NEVER been a slacker. I work hard with keeping schedules going, running errands, attending school and sport functions, keeping the house clean and orderly, having sit-down dinners on the table so we can enjoy eachother nightly, planning family gatherings, etc. LAZY is NOT part of my vocabulary and there is NEVER a GOOD EXCUSE for someone being a lazy taker!!!
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The families who ENABLE slackers shouldn't be complaining. They are a HUGE part of the problem and the person couldn't be a lazy slob if it were not for them! Time to grow up and stand up to slackers, even if it means they get angry at you.
Until YOU change, slackers have no motivation to.
Can't wait to see this show!
I just want to say this, "There is no one on God's green earth better to be a parent to children, than the parent."
I say this because I witnessed my own sister "raising" her children while asleep all day long. She claims she "raised" them when in fact, the just "grew up" and are now adults. The sad thing is they can not even read or write at a first grade level. I see her 32 year old son trying to raise four sons and has no clue as to how. Reason is he never learned how to be a good parent. I know that if he would listen to what the Lord placed in his heart and use his brain, he could do it. He has a wife who is educated and this causes him more frustration and the feeling of being a failure. Well, at his age, he could do something about the problem. Everything you mention you did and do is the reason, as parents, we know that it is not easy, but worth it.
I would leave a spouse like this if nothing else worked. Take the children and let the slacker live their life alone in bed and see how long it would take them to come out of it and face the real world. This is just as much for the slacker's sake as for everyone else's.
Oh, by the way, I consider myself as an enabler because my sister lives with me now to help take care of our bedridden mother and guess who does most the work? Yep, me. She is already looking for a place to go when the time comes to go our separate ways and she is planning on going to the daughter who did all the work when she was just a child herself. My sister must think that this daughter will return to her old ways and "take care of her."
The slackers CAN change IF THEY WANT TO.
Take care
God bless
