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I spent 19 years looking after my mum. I was just 19 when she was forced to retire at 52 from Amoco. When that happened I lost the mum I had known and loved (when she was around) She went through a complete personality change apart from going into severe depression. I found 3 different jobs for her from 1988 to 1993/4 until the final company she worked for, Pentex Oil, made her redundant again. Whilst working for Pentex she had a serious accident at Aberdeen Airport, Scotland. After that she was never very well again. Not only did she end up in wheelchair but she then decided that she would try to take my life over and live her life through mine and she also decided that as she had spent the first 18 years of my life paying for me it was my turn to pay for her and look after her.

I bought the house that we lived in for her and I was about to rent a house for me to live in and live my life but things went tragically wrong and in October 1997 I had a very serious horse riding accident. This has now left me severely disabled and wheelchair bound practically.

Up until just over two years ago my mother still expected me to pay for everything including the mortgage and pay for all the shopping that she needed and by this time she was terminally ill and dying.

The emotional, financial and physical drain was indescribable and I would not want to see anyone else go through what I went through. I have lost 19 years of my life through my mother's selfishness.

I learnt alot through watching the way my mother treated people, and most of the time she was very nasty to people. As far as she was concerned people were there just for her and that included me too.  It is not easy to fight for your freedom and life especially with someone who is very dominant and strong willed.

The other way of looking at things is to think/say what else did god have planned for me for the future as I now don't have the career that I use to have.