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July 11, 2007, 2:54 pm PDT

07/11 What’s Up, Doc?

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Please tell the couple who are trying so hard to have a baby they need to relax, quit thinking about getting pregnant, and enjoy themselves.

 

When we were first married 48 years ago, we wanted to have children right away and since it didn't happen immediately, we began to stress about it and do whatever the medical community knew to do back in those days.  It did indeed sort of become a job.  We lived on a farm.  One of the ewes had twin lambs and wouldn't "own" one.  I began feeding it with a bottle, which had to be done on a regular schedule day and night.  Getting pregnant kind of went to the bottom of the list, as this sweet fluffy little orphan was depending on me for it's life.     The lamb gradually began to thrive and one morning as I was bending over to feed it, I noticed I was very nauseated.   This continued to get worse and lo and behold I found out I was pregnant.  My husband thinks feeding the lamb brought  out my maternal instinct.  I think just forgetting about trying so hard was what did the trick.  PS  The lamb lived on to have lambs of it's own.

 

 

That is the most annoying uneducated thing I've ever heard.  Infertility is a disease.  If you have cancer tell me how you would feel if someone told you to relax and it will go away.  How about visiting our message boards.  Our stories will make you cry. 
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July 11, 2007, 3:47 pm PDT

07/11 What’s Up, Doc?

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Please tell the couple who are trying so hard to have a baby they need to relax, quit thinking about getting pregnant, and enjoy themselves.

 

When we were first married 48 years ago, we wanted to have children right away and since it didn't happen immediately, we began to stress about it and do whatever the medical community knew to do back in those days.  It did indeed sort of become a job.  We lived on a farm.  One of the ewes had twin lambs and wouldn't "own" one.  I began feeding it with a bottle, which had to be done on a regular schedule day and night.  Getting pregnant kind of went to the bottom of the list, as this sweet fluffy little orphan was depending on me for it's life.     The lamb gradually began to thrive and one morning as I was bending over to feed it, I noticed I was very nauseated.   This continued to get worse and lo and behold I found out I was pregnant.  My husband thinks feeding the lamb brought  out my maternal instinct.  I think just forgetting about trying so hard was what did the trick.  PS  The lamb lived on to have lambs of it's own.

 

 

I think most everyone has or has heard a similar story.  The inability to have children may very well be a medical issue.  The woman on the show has had 3 miscarriages, and has been trying for 3 years. I dont really think the doctor on the show has either enough experience or enough medical history information to diagnose this couple's issue as "behavioral".

 

I myself have been trying for over four years with no success. I find it a bit annoying when people tell me to "just relax".  IMHO, that's insulting.

 

Dr Phil - everyone accepted that the mother of four couldn't "behave her way" out of the flabby tummy... Why is everyone so quick to flippantly believe that this woman can "relax her way" out of infertility issues?

 
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July 11, 2007, 5:28 pm PDT

Relaxing isn't the answer

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Please tell the couple who are trying so hard to have a baby they need to relax, quit thinking about getting pregnant, and enjoy themselves.

 

When we were first married 48 years ago, we wanted to have children right away and since it didn't happen immediately, we began to stress about it and do whatever the medical community knew to do back in those days.  It did indeed sort of become a job.  We lived on a farm.  One of the ewes had twin lambs and wouldn't "own" one.  I began feeding it with a bottle, which had to be done on a regular schedule day and night.  Getting pregnant kind of went to the bottom of the list, as this sweet fluffy little orphan was depending on me for it's life.     The lamb gradually began to thrive and one morning as I was bending over to feed it, I noticed I was very nauseated.   This continued to get worse and lo and behold I found out I was pregnant.  My husband thinks feeding the lamb brought  out my maternal instinct.  I think just forgetting about trying so hard was what did the trick.  PS  The lamb lived on to have lambs of it's own.

 

 

When a couple has been trying to conceive for over 3 years with no success odds are that relaxing and vacations will not help because there is likely a medical reason for it. Please do not tell the millions of infertile women who need treatment that they are just too uptight to get pregnant. I was appalled that a doctor suggested that on today's show. If you are going to include an infertile couple on a show or comment about them, you need to know what you are talking about. Clearly Dr. Phil and the above poster have no clue what it is like to go years and years without having a baby or to have real medical problems that prevent conception by normal means. There are hormonal, structural and other problems that prohibit conception. To tell women with those kinds of issues to relax is like telling diabetics to relax and their blood sugar will come down.
 
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July 12, 2007, 6:54 am PDT

Blessing from Above

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Please tell the couple who are trying so hard to have a baby they need to relax, quit thinking about getting pregnant, and enjoy themselves.

 

When we were first married 48 years ago, we wanted to have children right away and since it didn't happen immediately, we began to stress about it and do whatever the medical community knew to do back in those days.  It did indeed sort of become a job.  We lived on a farm.  One of the ewes had twin lambs and wouldn't "own" one.  I began feeding it with a bottle, which had to be done on a regular schedule day and night.  Getting pregnant kind of went to the bottom of the list, as this sweet fluffy little orphan was depending on me for it's life.     The lamb gradually began to thrive and one morning as I was bending over to feed it, I noticed I was very nauseated.   This continued to get worse and lo and behold I found out I was pregnant.  My husband thinks feeding the lamb brought  out my maternal instinct.  I think just forgetting about trying so hard was what did the trick.  PS  The lamb lived on to have lambs of it's own.

 

 

Although I was unable to watch the Dr. Phil show, I just want you to know I was at a point where I thought I would never be able to have children, so keep the faith!!!
 
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July 18, 2007, 5:04 pm PDT

Be careful what you wish for...

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Please tell the couple who are trying so hard to have a baby they need to relax, quit thinking about getting pregnant, and enjoy themselves.

 

When we were first married 48 years ago, we wanted to have children right away and since it didn't happen immediately, we began to stress about it and do whatever the medical community knew to do back in those days.  It did indeed sort of become a job.  We lived on a farm.  One of the ewes had twin lambs and wouldn't "own" one.  I began feeding it with a bottle, which had to be done on a regular schedule day and night.  Getting pregnant kind of went to the bottom of the list, as this sweet fluffy little orphan was depending on me for it's life.     The lamb gradually began to thrive and one morning as I was bending over to feed it, I noticed I was very nauseated.   This continued to get worse and lo and behold I found out I was pregnant.  My husband thinks feeding the lamb brought  out my maternal instinct.  I think just forgetting about trying so hard was what did the trick.  PS  The lamb lived on to have lambs of it's own.

 

 

When I saw this show I was envious of the woman who was trying to get pregnant to give her daughter a sister.  She said she was close to her sister and that she wanted her daughter to experience that also.  I've got to say that there is no guarantee that that will happen even if she has another daughter.  My sister and I are not at all close.  My sister can't  even bring herself to leave her family for two hours to come to my birthday dinner.  The older I become, the more I find that friends can treat you better than family members.  I wish her luck regardless and hope that her wishes come true. 
 


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