Quote From: samm1431Does anyone ever stop to consider what the children in these situations want? Who gives a damn that the parent and grandparents don't get along, maybe they never will, but children still need the unconditional love of their grandparents. Whether their mother likes grandma and grandpa should not be the focal point. I am very upset about the subject of grandparent rights. In the state of Georgia, where I am from, grandparents do not have any rights to their grandchildren. I think at the very least they should get supervised visitation, if not one weekend a month.
My nephew ended his life in March because his wife left him for another nephew of mine. Now my brother is not allowed to see his grandchildren. They are the only link to a son that he lost because of this woman. She holds them over our heads, uses them as pawns, dangles them like a carrot, and toys with our emotions by keeping them away from a very loving family that wants to spend time with them and show them that they are precious and loved. I do not understand the logic that women use in cases like this and it makes me sick that they care so little for their children that they would use them as a source of vindictive pleasure.
As long as the grandparents are loving to the grandchildren, the parent should put aside their personal feelings toward the ex in-laws. They probably didn't get along while they were "in" the family anyway. Put the kids first !!! Isn't that what being a parent is about !!!
Good luck to the grandparents and their grandchildren, you are missing out on a great relationship.
Our children are BLESSED with two sets of WONDERFUL grandparents. My husband and I have been married (happily) for almost 19 years and our children spend much time with their grandparents.
With that said, I do NOT SUPPORT "grandparent's rights." It is the right of the mother and father to decide who will and who will not spend time with THEIR children. By making it mandatory for kids to see their grandparents, the rights of parents would be infringed upon. Who gives anyone, but the parents, the right to decide who spends time with their children?!!!
We want (and deserve) to be the ones to decide which people we feel are good influences on our children. And if our parents turned out to be lousy role models, it's OUR DECISION (and should always be) whether or not they get to see our children.
Hopefully no decent parents EVER stop the contact between their children and their grandparents when the grandparents love and care for children. Sadly, there are always exceptions (especially in cases of divorce...when parents get selfish and forget about what is best for the kids). However, that is NO REASON to make a blanket (legal) policy of grandparents having "rights" to see grandchildren.
