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October 3, 2005, 12:54 pm PDT
Well that is the upside...!
Quote From: seafalconHi - I recently resigned for a governmental job after 16 + years do to being bullied in the workplace. It was a nightmare. My union rep kept telling me that I would be squeezed out and to seek employment elsewhere that he had experienced a similar situation. I loved my job and tried to stand up for myself and what I felt was the right thing to do (gut instict). In the end, I was off work with severe depression for 8 months, I did file harrasement & retaliation complaint through ca fair employment & housing because my employer would not accept my complaint, stating that I did not have a legimate complaint. Well... my complaint was accepted and also forwarded to the EEOC for action as well. It is a long process but I will follow through. I also filed a workers comp claim for stress, it was also validated after 8 months, but to late to keep my job, I resigned before I was to be terminated. The bully had bullied others before me and they had attempted to file a complaint with our employer to no avail, they were smart and moved on before it ended up with what I have gone through. They have a job, and for the first time since I was 14 yrs old, I don't.
Question: How do you start over again, once your reputation has been ruined? I had A+++ up until a downsizing and mandated job move 2 yrs ago. Since some of you have returned to employment, I'm looking for any advise that will help me return to the workforce once again.
PS I have read about bullying in the workplace and bullies always bully others that they are intimidated by. That is true, people who try to bully and intimidate you are secretly jealous or intimidated by your looks, experience, education, personality, etc... So at least you know you have "something" going on for yourself if people are out-to-get-you, but I think that is all part of business nowadays. So many people/coworkers out there just to bring you down. I would rather make a lot less money without the stress than to work in another envirnoment that made me physically and mentally ill. No amount of money in the world is worth that and I hope not to anyone else either. My silent but deadly tactic of calling every top male executive in the company and complaining worked because I do know that one of the women that interrogated me and made my work life a living hell is gone from the company too. I think it is so funny. As far as your reputation goes, I wouldn't worry about it. Very few people have squeaky clean business reps and those that act like they do are just superficial and pretentious people anyways who should be ashamed of themselves for acting so holier than thou! I believe life is truly about making mistakes and having to drag those mistakes along with you as reminders of what you've learned. Quit playing the victim and start being the victor. Leave the past in the past so the future will open up to you. God bless you.
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