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February 26, 2007, 5:28 pm PST
 Quote From: cupcakes I'm not interested in online dating because of all the fakes and their lies. This is not a negative reaction, but merely a choice based on: 1. How much time do you want to waste going through all the fakes before you find a genuine person? 2. How much are you willing to risk to find a significant other? 3. The fact is, internet dating is a breeding ground for narcissists and psychopaths.
A good example is that I discovered a secret life of the man I was in a relationship with for 3 years. I thought he was a wonderful man, only to find all his personal ads on Yahoo, Match.com and Adultfriendfinder (xxx). He was meeting women at hotels when he traveled for work, having regular cybersex and phonesex with women, and regularly emailed swingers couples about meeting them, and also gay men. I did not have a clue until I looked at his computer one day. Also, all his ads were full of lies about his income, his values, his height, etc.
I am not against it because of this one experience, but because after doing much personal research on his type, I learned that narcissists are attracted to online dating because they are compulsive liars and it is so much easier to lie and make yourself out to be someone you are not when you date online!
It is possible to meet the person of your dreams online, but the odds are against it, in my opinion.
I was also dating a guy for three years he was a truckdriver so was on the road alot almost allwyas...we got engaged..not untill he came "local" to work did I find out how he truly was..as he was home he was on the home puter (had laptop on truck) he was also on adultfinder & other sites..he first denied he never heard of the site..then when i pulled it up on puter right in his face..he had the nerve to claim he didnt remember,,he had just "winked" at someone 3 days before no ones memory is that bad...now keep in mind this happened AFTER we got engaged...he put in his profile...and in his own words said he was looking for someone to chat with..poss meet & have fun with...is straight..but also like to be with couples...needless to say we broke up , he actually thinks he didnt do anything wrong (atleast thats the lie he is tellin me) I would highly reccomend all women check the sites for their own piece of mind . investigate your man for your piece of mind and to see if he can be trusted ...it will be a long azz time if ever when i will be able to trust another man..I know they are out there (maybe..lol) but i havent met or even know of anyone who has one. |
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