Replies to '07/13 Prison Moms'

 Society SHOULD want women happily married and then having children for the sake of both the kids and what's shown (over centuries) to be best for society. Does that always happen? Of course not. There are always exceptions.

Women are "enablers" because they choose to be. Nobody puts a gun to anyone's head and makes them enable someone (or enable themself). Men can be enablers too.

Yes, God wants you to have a husband first because it's the moral thing to do...and, if he's decent, he's great for both the woman and the kids. All the stats show that a happy 2-parent home is best for kids. We keep lying to ourselves in this country to JUSTIFY our selfishness when it comes to what children need and deserve (but what we choose not to give them).

I have many wonderful friends who have ended up single mothers (due to divorce); they are great mothers, but even they will admit it is tough to be both a mother and a father to a child...to have quality time when the one parent has to work fulltime, to discipline well (especially with one parent and more than one child in the home), etc. I congratulate all those single mothers who raise great children. Sadly, too many single parent children have trouble with behavior, needing attention, trusting, getting and maintaining healthy permanent relationships, respecting authority, etc.

Nobody should be cruel to you. But nobody should lie to you either, even if you don't like to hear what they have to say. It is SELFISH to try to bring a child into the world without the benefit of a husband/father. It is NOT in the best interest of the child. Adoption is a wonderful option when the unexpected happens. It's always the least selfish of the choices.

And, again, single mothers who didn't choose their lot in life AND WHO RAISE WONDERFUL KIDS should be applauded. Hopefully their children will appreciate all that they've done for them.

Sorry, if I am not PC. I used to be and it was a lie. The facts on 2-parent happy homes vs 1-parent divorced/single homes are evident from every study out there. Thanksfully there are exceptions, but that doesn't change things.

By the way, many single women wth children are NOT independent. Anyone getting money from the govt is NOT independent. We are ALL helping to raise that precious child and that does NOT make the woman "independent."

I am a happily married (for almost 19 years) "independent" mother of two  (college-educated, but I choose to be a fulltime mom). I speak my mind, make as many decisions as my spouse and I have my own savings and investments, as does my husband (plus we have joint savings/investments). Sadly, few are truly "independent" in this world. They talk the talk but don't walk the walk.