Replies to '07/09 "You Owe Me an Apology!"'

I really wish Dr. Phil would do some type of show called personality disorders 101, because it takes having someone say this is how the characteristics of  pathological narcissism play out in real life,  to help people see just what being mentally ill is. There was absolutely no point in trying to convince, Vance, that he needed help. People who are as sick as he is usually never get better (because they think they are fine) and will only apologize if they want something. I hope Christie gets though it okay, being in a relationship with a person like that can make finding up almost impossible, not to mention dealing with the unimaginable depression and anger over the horrible way the person who you wanted to love you as much as you loved them, treated you.  It helped me (well after I imagined him/them dying over and over), to realize that my grief and anger (and well feelings) are what make me a good caring human being regardless of how painful. The person who treated me that badly is suffering so much that they cant allow themselves to have any feelings of their own so all of their hurt/anger/guilt is projected onto others because really inside they are empty and they want to make everybody else feel the same way they do. They are truely lost. When I think of it that way, the only thing left to feel towards them is pity-