Quote From: jackdaddyI get along well with my mother in law she is grate lady. she has save our butts a time or two with no holding over head. she has MS and is right now living in a Astited living home, and she her MS is gitting worse which we know it would. I say all this to say this we are thinking about maybe having her come live with our for a little bit, and have home health nurse come in 2 or 3 times a week, and the other stuff she need too. I we have a 15 month old son that just run the house witch is what 15 month old should do. My only worry is if my mother in law is transfering if she falls and my son is under foot witch is is often she could fall on him and they could both be hurt, and no body wants that. The reason we are thinking about this is my wife want to stay home and raise our childern, but right now money is tight and the person that take care of the money part of my mother in law would give us the money and my wife would not have to work aslo no daycare to pay for this would also call for me to help wife with her mother from time to time witch i will do. now this is what I need in put on from peolpe that have live this how much strane can it cuse our marrige and also what can be dont to insulate againt as much as we can. Any help you can give me in this matter would grate help.
It is really wonderful that you get along well with your MIL! I think that it is great that you and your wife are considering having her mother come to live with your family, this is an arrangement that won’t work for a lot of people, but if all parties understand the boundaries and have common respect/courtesy for one another, it could work out. Have you and your wife already extended your invitation to your MIL? Or, are you just in the beginning stages of thinking about it? Your concern regarding your young son is valid; having a clear understanding with your MIL that your young child shouldn’t be near while she is transferring should be simple enough. You and your wife need to take a serious look at your finances and when you make this offer to your MIL, have a concrete understanding of how much her rent will be, and if it will include food and utilities, etc. One of the biggest things that can interfere with a happy family is money, so having a clear understanding right from the beginning will save you a lot of hurt feelings. I wish you the best of luck!
