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July 27, 2007, 2:13 am PDT
 Quote From: stormsinger I am a 19 year old student at a Christian university in Pensacola Florida. I recently met the sweetest African man. He is also a student at the college I attend, and from what I can see, he's perfect in every way. Originally from Zambia, he has lived in the US for the past 3 or 4 years and speaks perfect English. The problem is my parents. My mother does not think interracial marriage is wrong, she just thinks it causes issues such as ridicule, stress, and unnecessary strife. She is convinced I would regret marriage to an African man the day after our wedding. She says it would be "a hole in the boat" and would just be another issue to add to the stresses of marriage. Is this true? Have any of you experienced "stares", "pointing", and other issues? I am open to any opinions you have on the subject. Not having the opportunity to spend time with him in my local community (Michigan), I don't really know what the response would be (the area I live in presently is primarily white). I see nothing wrong with it, and would never look at someone involved in an interracial relationship with anything other than respect. Wow, is the first thought I had when I read your note... I have some information for you....
Your mother is right. Sad, but true to a certain degree..
First of all, no one is perfect... not even this African man. Is he a citizen of the United States? This is an important question. I'll tell you why I ask when you post a reply...
Second, interracial marriage in some cities, states and neighborhoods experiences ridicule, undue stress and strain and certainly unnecessary strife.
You may never regret the marriage to the African man, but you may cry more than you laugh depending on where you live after marriage. People are people and many of them are prejudice.
Ultimately, you have to make decisions for yourself on who you will marry and what that means to you and him. You can not live your life based on the fear of what your fellow white family and freinds may say or do...
BUT, you can not be thinnned skined, you can not wear your feelings on your sleeve and you have to be able to allow insults to roll off your back like water off a duck.... Because it will not be easy...
NOW, sure as I say that.... your experiences may be totally opposite, as no one can see the future... many times people ridicule others because they are jealous, wish they had what you have or wish they had the nerves or the bravery to do as you are or have done.... One never knows the motivations of others. Your mother could be one of these people, maybe she always wanted to interracially date but feared what she expressed to you.
DON"T let the fears of others dictate your decisions.
Above all else, pray about it. Be still, be quiet and listen to the spirit. You'll know what's best as the holy spirit will lead and guide you all the way.
Again, is the African man a citizen of the US.....
Talk to me...
Sincerely |
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