Replies to 'Relationship Myths'

I sure the heck would not be having sex with this guy and that for me would have been the first thing I would have stopped. Sex should be done out of love and respect for the other and I for one would not be having sex with some one that wasn't in love with me but another. Remember we teach people how to treat us. I would suggest a seperation to help you both think and sort things out for your self, before my husband and I married, we were seeing each other every day, even though we were not living together. At one point in our relationship, he wasn't too sure what he wanted or if he even wanted to get marriaed and of course by this time, I had already fallin in love with him and was thinking towards marriage and I looked at him and said, "I do not want to see you any more until you figure out what it is that you are looking for in life", it certainly wasn't easy but I wasn't about to be with a man who didn't love me, thankfully we were not having sex as we both have very strong beliefs that sex should come after your married. Any way, it worked out for us but I was prepared for the worse and to this day, I am proud that I stood up for myself and did not allow this guy to use me as a crutch, even though it was not his intention to do this, that is what I felt like he was doing and that feeling did not set well with me. better to find out before you make a committment to marry this guy then to find out afterwards. Respect your self and and don't settle for less then what you are worth.

Several years ago, I was in your shoes.  I was totally in love with my boyfriend.  He went away for a few weeks on vacation, came back and told me he had found someone else and was no longer in love with me.  Now, he wasn't seeing this other girl (I have no idea if he ever saw her again), but he wasn't in love with me.  Still, he wanted his "benefits".   

  

It is so hard to say no and push them away when you are so much in love ... but you HAVE to.  It is the best thing you will ever do in yur life.  Right now, you think you can work things out.  You think you can make him love you.  But it isn't that easy.  If he is so inconsiderate of your feeling that he would tell you he isn't in love with you, then try to sleep with you, he doesn't deserve you.  You deserve much better.  

  

I urge you to move on with you life ... without him.  It will be hard, but there is someone much better for you out there.  You will find them and you will be happy.