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October 12, 2005, 11:34 am PDT
 Quote From: llama116 I am a single mom of 3 one daughter 23 graduated college and has a good job and lives away from home in orlando where her job is i have 2 boys 8 and 9 with adhd that have not seen there dad since they were 2 that is not my problem my problem is my boys they get up fighting and misbehaving 5 minutes after out of there bed this morning they knocked down a shelf and broke all the trophies in my sons room and this was all before 7am. i have tried the point system by easy child i have tried everything i have read the books on adhd dr lawless but nothing seems to stop them from fighting and misbehaving my son says he hates the point system and does not like dr phil because i try to use things in his books and shows to help me i even watch the show the nanny but still mornings are my nightmare i just ask my kids to get up i lay the clothes in bins marked each day (and all the toysare in bins marked but they can not keep anything clean )and eat breakfast my younger is very adhd and is very mean and mean in the morning before his medicine and at night when it wears off i have tried per the doctor to ignore but that does not work i have tried giving him a small doss of medicine before he goes to bed to see if maybe that would be better in the morning nothing everything i even went to the boys home over by me and took a short tour no help my eight year old when you tell him no he cries he has been crying since day 1
they are good at school and when they are at there friends but at home i feel they will be the death of me i am not the type that threatens and does not follow through but that doesn't work either they like to walk on me because i am the only displinary in there life i am so tired of being mister mean guy i do not know what to do please help me i know adhd kids have to be disiplined different but i am going crazy and my kids do not know they are adhd they think they take medicine for allergies my older one is asthmatic
help me
lori illinois i am a single mother of 3 boys--ages 9,11,13. lord knows none of us have all the answers, but this is what worked for me. my boys used to argue quite a bit also---whoever was arguing, i just made them quit talking to each other until they could have respect for each other. after awhile, it began to work because everytime they started the arguing again, i reminded them that they needed to be respectful if they were going to talk to that person. also, i decided a long time ago that they kids aren't going to keep stressing me out---now if they have bad behavior---they loose things/priviledges that are important to them. because of his grades, my oldest son has only his bed and dressers in his room, everything else has been taken away until the next gradecards come home and will not be returned until the grades improve. he's bored to death, so it seems to be working. you just have to make their behavior their issue, and they have to deal with the repercussions. i let them know they're not stressing me out, alot of times i think they do things to get attention anyway. good luck---most of all, don't give up on them--they're worth it!! |
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