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August 8, 2007, 2:50 pm PDT
What a sad story
Quote From: keisha03I understand completely what you are saying. I have a son (my only son) that is 22 years old and we have never really be able to get along. He is so mean and selfish I simply don't understand where he gets it from he has an older sister 24 and a younger sister 20 and he fights with them just not as much as he fights with me, don't get me wrong I do understand that parents and children will and do have misunderstanding but my son is so disrespectful I simply can not wait for the day he leaves my house. He works everyday but say that he can not afford to move out which I know is a lie because he does not help with anything at all in the house. I have threaten to have him evicted, which I still don't understand seeing that this is my house and I should just be able to put him out and be done with it but the police officer that I spoke with said that I couldn't do it that way I would have to take time off of work and pay to file papers to have him put out of my house. I have a 4 yr old grandson that also stays with me and I don't want him around my son..Because I don't care what I have to do my grandson will not end up like my son. My daughters and my son were raised together in the same household and my daughters are not like that at all. Maybe at times I wasn't the best Mom I could have been, but I did everything I could to make my children's childhood a good one, seeing that their father was never in the picture. Of course it wasn't easy,,but we made it together as a family but my son has never appreciated anything that I ever done, I actually thinks he resents me for leaving his father when he was 3 years. But if he only knew that was the best thing I could have done for myself as well as for them When you say your son doesn't help with anything in the house do you mean he doesn't pay any rent? If that is so and he doesn't help in the home and causes conflict then he needs to start growing up very quickly. You will know that you are (here comes that over used word) enabling him and difficult as it is going to be you are going to have to make some tough decisions that help YOU get what YOU want. You have to decide, do I want him out of my home and possibly out of my life, because he is now a grown man and has to start acting like it. If you do want that then you tell him 3 months and you must find somewhere else to live, you aren't happy here and you need to find somewhere that you are happy. Keep reminiding him, 2 months to go, 2 weeks to go, etc and make sure he is packing his stuff and getting another place to live.
If that isn't what you want then you have to decide what it is you want as there will be arguments and unpleasantness but if you have a goal then stick to it. You aren't helping him grow up, if you let him continue to act like a moody tenager. A mother always feels guity no matter what she does for her children so try not to let that emotion cloud your decision making.
Good luck
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