This may require that you move out. Under NO circumstances, however, may you cite his not wanting to get married as the reason why you want to create some space. You MUST also reassure him that you aren't trying to leave him for someone else. Insist that you want to remain faithful to him, but feel that you both could benefit from some time apart.
This is not about making him miserable, but about making him see what he's missing by not making you a permanent fixture in his life. It's not that he means to take you for granted, but after a long time and getting stuck in the rut of daily life he doesn't appreciate the little things you do as much. So, if he gets some space and starts wondering how he every made it without you, he'll be calling you up and wanting you back... put him back on the 3 day rule... if you don't know... this is the minimum amount of time a guy needs to contact you by for a date... so for friday night, he should call you no later than wednesday so you can plan your time accordingly... (there's nothing more fun than frantically doing 2 loads of laundry, washing your hair, and taking a shower between work and a friday night date!)
hint 1. don't always be home when he calls or at least don't always answer!
hint 2. This is not about making you miserable either. Use this time for yourself! Concentrate on some things you've wanted to do for you and call up some old girlfriends and go out! You can think about him though, consider his reaction to your space idea and also whether or not the two of you can have a successful marriage.
hint 3. This is not about other men. dont' go calling old boyfriends. This will just confuse you.
hint 4. Be Patient! Rome wasn't built in a day and guys are slow sometimes.
Warning: this may 'backfire' on you (if you want to call it that). he may realize after all, that he can... and would rather... live without you. This is something he would have figured out eventually whether you left or not, and finding out this way could save you from messy divorce or putting many children in the middle of a mess. If he does decide he's better off without you, you're better off without him, I recommend taking this as a 'he isn't the ONE'. This frees you up to work on yourself and get back out there looking for Mr. Right.
