Addictions, weather it be gambling, alcohol, drugs, pornography, shopping, eating, whatever it is share a lot of similar traits, and treatments. The first thing to do about an addiction is to recognize the addiction for what it is. If you are the one with the addiction, making a statement like "how do you help women who are addicted to pornography" tells me that you recognize it as an addiction for you. If it is a friend or family member you are speaking of, then it is a little harder, due to the fact that it means sitting them down and pointing out tangible examples of how the addiction is causing problems in their life. For an example, I have noticed many times you will for go outings with friends and family to instead view pornography, and because of that people are not asking you to join them much any more, and it is leading to you becoming more isolated and cut of from the world, I am worried about you. That is an example, as i do not know any history of the person you are speaking of so can not really come up with an example that pertains to your situation.
Talking with the person in this way, with the spirit of compassion and the intent to help is definatly the way to go. We do not want to preach at them from a moral hill top, as they will simply shut us out and render us ineffective as a helper.
They may deny or get angry for you brining these things to their attention, but remain calm, and let them know it is because you care about them and sincerely want to help them that you are brining it up, not to cause them pain, but to let them know you see a problem and you want to be someone they can come to when they are ready to deal with it.
That is first and foremost, what needs to happen they have to first see they have a problem and have become addicted.
This is speaking soley about addictions, women do not have to be sexually abused, or virgins to become addicted, addictions know no boundarys and care not about economics, race, or gender, or spiritual views.
In any event i jope what I have shared gives you a stepping stone to begin dealing or helping the person that you care about that has become addicted.
Hugs
Tammy
