Replies to 'Should We Get Pregnant?'

Yes, your fears are very normal, believe me. I'm a first time Mum, my daughter Stephanie is now 3 years old and I'm still learning day to day about motherhood. I don't think you ever stop learning about being a Mum. 

 

I remember when my hubby and I found out that we were pregnant we were both so very happy but shocked as well. As we didn't know what was ahead of us of course being first time parents. We were both so scared of not being good enough for our baby and not being able to take good care of her or him. 

 

Then the day came that Stephanie was born and from that moment on yes our lives had changed forever and yes we were scared big time as we didn't know if we were going to be good parents or not, but as each thing came up like feeding Stephanie we just did it or changing her messy nappy we just did it or even when it came time to bath her we just did it. It all seems to just come to you somehow from somewhere in the back of your mind. 

 

One thing my hubby said to me about 3 weeks after Stephanie was born was, "Until Stephanie came along I had never fed a baby, or changed a dirty nappy or even bathed a baby." 

 

Well you wouldn't have known that cause to me, Mark was a natural at it, he just seemed to know how to do these things. 

 

So all I can say is that your fears are quite normal and you're not the only one who thinks like this, most first time Mum's all think and feel the same way as you do. 

 

I hope this has helped you in some small way, please TAKE CARE, LOVE KELLY. 

I feel the same way so any input anyone has I would also be glad to hear.  Thanks!

If you read my post before this one you will get some more of the story. I was the same way. I didn't like children I thought they were just little gross things that leak everywhere. Right before I found out I was pregnant in May of last year I was going out for the police department (until I found out I was pregnant then dropped out) I'm heavy into Martial Arts, and went to the gun range weekly. I loved to party all night. I always felt sorry for my friends that had children and couldn't do whatever they wished.

 

BOY was I wrong. All the way up till I had my son, I was scared to death that I wouldn't know how to feed him change him or what if I just forgot about him in the crib. I didn't even want the doctors to put him on my stomach after the birth cause I was like he is going to be all nasty. I did however enjoy being pregnant I liked feeling him kick and I tried to do all the healthy stuff. I however broke my ankle the day before I gave birth. So i was stuck in a wheel chair for 6 weeks cause I was so weak from not doing a whole during the pregnancy that I could use the cruches. Anyways I'm getting away from the point here.

 

When they put him on me right after birth, him cover in gross stuff. I started to cry cause I just had this rush of great joy come over me. I had this little baby that I created with my husband. I didn't even sleep for the first week really unless someone else was up to watch my son. Your child doesn't let you forget about him and you usually hold him all day besides when he is napping, so its easy to check for messy diapers and to feed him. I still don't like children or other babies. I however love my son and couldn't image my life without him now. I miss drinking all night and being wasted the next day, but you realize your son/daughter is so much more important that you would turn the world for them if you had too.

 

My advice is don't rush into having children if you don't feel ready but yes these fears are 100% normal. The fact you want children but are scared you will fail means more then likly you will not fail. Its hard very hard work. But you get use to it, you get to love the everday stress sometimes. My son is now 5 months old. I spend my days reading to him and giving him tummy times so he can start crawling and then on to walking soo. I'm planning on getting a high chair in the next couple of weeks cause he will be going on foods in less then a month (6 months old)

 

Oh and get pregnancy books, and all the what to expect when expecting books, even before you get pregnant you should know what your getting into. I love it and this is from a woman that was scared all the way to labor, and I mean scared like crying and wanting to change my mind scared.