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August 20, 2007, 4:34 pm PDT
Thanks!!
Quote From: juzzaboo I am i like the same boat as your daughter that when you said the story that was like you were talking about my life. I did date white guys but I have now been dating this guy for almost two years. We have known each other for three but together a year in a half. Just like you said this guy treats me like a woman. He puts my needs before his and always never makes me feel less than what he met me. I love him so much that we are expecting a kid here soon but the problem is that my dad and my step mom aren't to crazy about the mixing thing. they are worried that the baby will be made fun of because he is mixed as in im indian and white and he is african american. I tell them that it isn't how he looks but what his attitude and his personality is like. They are also afraid that he will follow in the male african steryotype that he will leave me starnded and as a single mom and no child support or anything. They are total wrong about him. He finished high school as class president high gpa and all around sports. He is also in coollege to make a future for his upp coming family and works also. I use to have two jobs but he made me quit one and now he does over time to make up for the other job for us. He is a very supporting guy all my other family dad and real mom's family side loves him the only problem I have is my step mom and my dad are not comfortable with the idea. I finally got tired of all the lecturing that i told my dad that if he does't want to be a grandpa that is fine because the baby has plenty of family to love him. So you tell her to do what here heart and if you think this guy is right for your daughter give her that support!! But i am so glad I found this message on this board because its nice to know that you aren't the only one. respond back if you would like. I would like to here from you. oh and there is a pic of me and my boyfriend on my profile take a look at it. That's a nice picture. Ya'll look very happy. Thank you for your response, it is nice to know their are other people out there going thru similar problems. I really hope your Dad and his wife can look past the worries they have over what they consider a problem. I have a grandaughter and believe me there's nothing like your g-babies. They will be so sorry if they choose to not be a part of your childs life and what a shame that would be. I do agree that the baby will have plenty of other family though. As far as the stereotype of the black man leaving the Mom with the child and all that, my daughters boyfriend got her pregnant and left her. The day he found out she was pregnant it's like he fell off the face of the earth. We supported her and was with her thru the entire pregnancy. He didn't show up at the hospital and to this day(she's now 4) he only shows up when it's convenient for him and guess what? He's WHITE!!! So much for that stereotype, I say theirs good and bad in all people. Well, good luck to you both and God bless!!
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