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kcitsme3
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October 7, 2005, 1:58 pm PDT

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Hi, I am a 38 year old male with 4 kids & been happily married for 14 years - when we were 1st married I spent all of the summer naked around the house with no protest from my wife & she was well aware of my naturist nature as when ever we went to a secluded swimming hole I always was nude - she even did it too! 

Even when our first child was born she did not mind me being naked, she would video me playing with our child naked (camera angle above waist) 

Then as the children grew up she started to get more & more prudish & started to ask me to cover up in front of the kids, (which I did to keep the peace) 

Last summer we lived at house with a pool & she tolerated me swimming nude at night, but this year (I am in Australia - hot days of spring started already)  she is freaking out if I lay in bed nude! 

Now the children are 8 (boy) 6 (boy) 4 (girl) & 2 (boy) & she has got it into her head that I am some sort of pervert who gets off on cavorting around naked to give myself pleasure, I have pointed out to her if this was the case why don't I have a erection & she brushes this off - she says I must love myself - I reply that I am more comfortable nude - she will then say I am no stud either which I find a put down, I asked her if I toned up & lost a bit of weight could I walk around nude? she didn't have an answer for that one! 

  

I want other womens opinion's about this issue, am I normal? if so what can I do to convince her? I think she is being overprotective of the kids, I belive they should be exposed to nudity so when they grow up it is not a big taboo/obssesion etc 

  

Listen, this society just will not allow you to be naked in front of your kids. Right or wrong, there are so many problems that could arise due to your desire to be naked ( being called a pervert, accused of molestation or indecent exposure). Your wife is just taking the road of least resistance (which I can't blame her in this exhaustingly critical society) for your kids. Believe me, throw on some loose boxers and spare your wife and kids the complications of trying to explain your behavior.  

BTW, I support nudity and do not find it offensive, it is just that the society we live in is so closed minded and judgmental! 
 
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October 18, 2005, 9:26 pm PDT

Go for it, you are normal!

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Hi, I am a 38 year old male with 4 kids & been happily married for 14 years - when we were 1st married I spent all of the summer naked around the house with no protest from my wife & she was well aware of my naturist nature as when ever we went to a secluded swimming hole I always was nude - she even did it too! 

Even when our first child was born she did not mind me being naked, she would video me playing with our child naked (camera angle above waist) 

Then as the children grew up she started to get more & more prudish & started to ask me to cover up in front of the kids, (which I did to keep the peace) 

Last summer we lived at house with a pool & she tolerated me swimming nude at night, but this year (I am in Australia - hot days of spring started already)  she is freaking out if I lay in bed nude! 

Now the children are 8 (boy) 6 (boy) 4 (girl) & 2 (boy) & she has got it into her head that I am some sort of pervert who gets off on cavorting around naked to give myself pleasure, I have pointed out to her if this was the case why don't I have a erection & she brushes this off - she says I must love myself - I reply that I am more comfortable nude - she will then say I am no stud either which I find a put down, I asked her if I toned up & lost a bit of weight could I walk around nude? she didn't have an answer for that one! 

  

I want other womens opinion's about this issue, am I normal? if so what can I do to convince her? I think she is being overprotective of the kids, I belive they should be exposed to nudity so when they grow up it is not a big taboo/obssesion etc 

  

I was browsing the messages & seen your posting & it struck me as the exact same
story as my hubby except it was me that was nude all the time
He started getting more & more touchy about me being nude in front of my twin boys who were
5 yr old
I was raised in a nudist family, we all swam nude in our pool from an early age & went to nude beachs - my husband knew this
when he married me but still he worried my sons would be made into sexual fiends or something?
I eventualy got him to go to a nude beach with me alone & there was several family groups & couples there
after that he relaxed his opinion about nudity & now is nude all summer with the kids and I. 

I do not agree with the people who say that kids should not see there parents nude, in fact several studies
have proved otherwise - even Dr Phil mentions it in his book as not being negative. 

Cokebottle I think you should try harder honey! 

I agree with the comments by kcitsme3 I agree with you totaly about society looking down there nose if you are
different to them. 

Try searching on the internet for research into nudity & children, check out the numerous christian
nudist sites too!  

Don't worry about what other narrow minded people say! 
 
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April 8, 2006, 5:44 am PDT

Is This Normal?

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Hi, I am a 38 year old male with 4 kids & been happily married for 14 years - when we were 1st married I spent all of the summer naked around the house with no protest from my wife & she was well aware of my naturist nature as when ever we went to a secluded swimming hole I always was nude - she even did it too! 

Even when our first child was born she did not mind me being naked, she would video me playing with our child naked (camera angle above waist) 

Then as the children grew up she started to get more & more prudish & started to ask me to cover up in front of the kids, (which I did to keep the peace) 

Last summer we lived at house with a pool & she tolerated me swimming nude at night, but this year (I am in Australia - hot days of spring started already)  she is freaking out if I lay in bed nude! 

Now the children are 8 (boy) 6 (boy) 4 (girl) & 2 (boy) & she has got it into her head that I am some sort of pervert who gets off on cavorting around naked to give myself pleasure, I have pointed out to her if this was the case why don't I have a erection & she brushes this off - she says I must love myself - I reply that I am more comfortable nude - she will then say I am no stud either which I find a put down, I asked her if I toned up & lost a bit of weight could I walk around nude? she didn't have an answer for that one! 

  

I want other womens opinion's about this issue, am I normal? if so what can I do to convince her? I think she is being overprotective of the kids, I belive they should be exposed to nudity so when they grow up it is not a big taboo/obssesion etc 

  

That you love to be in your birthday suit is your preference and may not be anything wrong per sey, but I do agree that once the kids get to a certain age you need to keep your toolbox in the box, so to speak. It may be normal in a society like the rainforest Indians - all nude all the time. But our society is not like that and children do need the exposure suitable for the surrounding they live in, not something too extreme in contrary to what they will face everyday in their life. I dont understand parents that wish to push too extreme ideas of their own onto children which may make them outcasts in their own society and environment.  


Besides, it may be positive for you to keep your undies on. There may be people who find out about it and make assumptions that you are a perve and report you. I think your wife have come across something, or seen some event take place with you perhpas without your knowing over the years which has suddenly changed her view of your nudity or made her imagine to suddenly find it perverted. 

Dont you think there is a time and place for everything? Do you have to have it your way all the time or are you flexible? Why not ask your wife if she feels allright if you visit nudist colonies now and then since she is so against you being nude in the house? Invite her to come along, but if she doesnt want but feels its OK for you then the both of you would have what makes you comfortable. 

  

  
 
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September 8, 2006, 4:18 pm PDT

Is This Normal?

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Hi, I am a 38 year old male with 4 kids & been happily married for 14 years - when we were 1st married I spent all of the summer naked around the house with no protest from my wife & she was well aware of my naturist nature as when ever we went to a secluded swimming hole I always was nude - she even did it too! 

Even when our first child was born she did not mind me being naked, she would video me playing with our child naked (camera angle above waist) 

Then as the children grew up she started to get more & more prudish & started to ask me to cover up in front of the kids, (which I did to keep the peace) 

Last summer we lived at house with a pool & she tolerated me swimming nude at night, but this year (I am in Australia - hot days of spring started already)  she is freaking out if I lay in bed nude! 

Now the children are 8 (boy) 6 (boy) 4 (girl) & 2 (boy) & she has got it into her head that I am some sort of pervert who gets off on cavorting around naked to give myself pleasure, I have pointed out to her if this was the case why don't I have a erection & she brushes this off - she says I must love myself - I reply that I am more comfortable nude - she will then say I am no stud either which I find a put down, I asked her if I toned up & lost a bit of weight could I walk around nude? she didn't have an answer for that one! 

  

I want other womens opinion's about this issue, am I normal? if so what can I do to convince her? I think she is being overprotective of the kids, I belive they should be exposed to nudity so when they grow up it is not a big taboo/obssesion etc 

  

Hi, I agree with you! My husband is often nude, especially in the morn, cuz he sleeps nude. He runs around the house covering his privates, if it is daylight and the window curtains are open! The kids and I kinda get a kick out of it, it is funny! His hair is crzy like and he looks like a caveman. We always joke about it. His twin brother does the same type thing, so my sis in law says. I didn't grow up like that at all! I never once saw my father or mother naked/nude or anyone for that matter!  I rarely walk around nude, unless no one is home... I grew up much more shy! I think it is a much healthier attitude to be comfortable in one's skin and be able to be nude in front of friends and family, especially your own spouse and children! These healthy attitudes are what our uptight society needs! Not conformity!
 
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October 5, 2007, 8:58 pm PDT

to is this normal

Quote From: cokebottle

Hi, I am a 38 year old male with 4 kids & been happily married for 14 years - when we were 1st married I spent all of the summer naked around the house with no protest from my wife & she was well aware of my naturist nature as when ever we went to a secluded swimming hole I always was nude - she even did it too! 

Even when our first child was born she did not mind me being naked, she would video me playing with our child naked (camera angle above waist) 

Then as the children grew up she started to get more & more prudish & started to ask me to cover up in front of the kids, (which I did to keep the peace) 

Last summer we lived at house with a pool & she tolerated me swimming nude at night, but this year (I am in Australia - hot days of spring started already)  she is freaking out if I lay in bed nude! 

Now the children are 8 (boy) 6 (boy) 4 (girl) & 2 (boy) & she has got it into her head that I am some sort of pervert who gets off on cavorting around naked to give myself pleasure, I have pointed out to her if this was the case why don't I have a erection & she brushes this off - she says I must love myself - I reply that I am more comfortable nude - she will then say I am no stud either which I find a put down, I asked her if I toned up & lost a bit of weight could I walk around nude? she didn't have an answer for that one! 

  

I want other womens opinion's about this issue, am I normal? if so what can I do to convince her? I think she is being overprotective of the kids, I belive they should be exposed to nudity so when they grow up it is not a big taboo/obssesion etc 

  

 I think there is nothing wrong for you and your wife to expose your bodies to each other but to expose your bodies in front of children I think is wrong. I would not like to see my father having his penis hanging around. I think that you have to consider the children. You can teach them their body is okay without parading around in the buff.  I tell your wife dont allow this. What are you teaching your children when they have to go to school around their friends. It is okay for you to take your clothes off and parade around.. Not.. To me that is a form of child abuse.  I think it sounds a little perverted.
 
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