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August 28, 2007, 8:27 am PDT
 Quote From: floppyfred I have a cousin who is 45 and does not know that she is not who she thinks she is. Her real mother came to Delaware pregnant, gave birth under her aunts name and left Karen with the aunt to raise.As of yet no one has told her the truth. I feel she needs to know before the people who could answer her questions are no longer alive. Her biological mother and siblings are living in Texas and the twin sister of the woman who raised her is still alive.The aunt who raised her is dead.I've told the older sister(who is not really her sister) to tell her and all she said is leave it alone. I had been raised up with Karen and I had felt like a big sister, we lived together for a few years.I just don't know if I should tell her, or should I tell her husband and let him tell her? Someone please help me know what I should do! TELL HER!!
I found out TOO LATE that my mother took to her grave the truth that the man who she married and I believed was my father was not my biological father. The entire family kept this secret until my very elderly aunt (mom's sister) FINALLY told me the truth. However, my biological father was already deceased. I found this out when I was 57 years old!! I am now 59. I know that I have 4 siblings I don't know. At least one of them now knows about me (older brother) but none apparently want to meet or have anything to do with me, one way or another, unless I am being lied to again. My Mom was not the Mom I thought she was, obviously. I feel betrayed by my entire family. SOMEBODY needed to step up to the plate and do the right thing. Learning this did answer many questions though. Secrets are NEVER good! Even if the result of the truth is less than what one would like, it is still better to know the truth. When your very foundation is brought into question, it TRULY rocks your world, regardless of learning it later in life, makes no difference and it impacts you! It is my understanding that my biological father was a wonderful man who knew about me. He let go when my mom didn't want him. He was a widower at the time, then got remarried and had 2 more children. I have one older brother by his first marriage. I have a half sister I grew up with after my mom married the man I thought was my dad. I am a Christian and I believe I will someday meet my father in heaven. However, the pain of betrayal is devastating. Knowing who your parents are and at least HAVING THE CHANCE of a relationship with them, is a birthright! Lying and robbery are never pretty and never right. |
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