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August 28, 2007, 8:21 am PDT
General Advice
Quote From: emhayesOK...my daughter just turned 8 and recently has not been able to stick to any of her own decisions when it comes to spending time with her friends. For example...a good friend asks her to go somewhere and my daughter accepts the invitation and looks forward to going but once she gets into the car and the mother drives away, my daughter wants to return home...another instance is when she's invited to a friend's house to have a girls only movie night, she's thrilled with the invitation and says she'll be there but at the last minute ends up changing her mind. Just today she was invited to go to a birthday party that began at a waterpark, she didn't want to go to the waterpark but wanted to wait until the girls returned to the house for cake and ice cream, that is until she saw all her friends leaving to go to the waterpark without her and she's now upset that it's too late to go and she'll have to wait until the girls return. How do I make her understand that once you accept or decline an invitation, you need to stick to it? i think you should just make her go a couple of times, and she might learn it that way. you could also try to talk to her, why she changes her mind so often. if you make her go, when she leaves, she might make a bit of a scene, but when she's there, she'll probably have fun. because with not going anywere, she isn't really making her life fun. talk to her about why she doesn't want to go, and tell her that when she accepts an invitation, she has to go, and if she doesn't want to know if she wants to go, that she should tell them, that she needs to think about it.
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