Replies to 'Defining Your Authentic Self'

As Linda and I will tell you, it's about working out our patterns.  The things you need to be asking yourself is WHEN WILL YOU KNOW YOU WILL HAVE BOUGHT CLOSURE TO YOUR LIFE EVENTS?   sometimes, it's a matter of the law ... sometimes it's a matter of letting go of wanting something to be one way and it's not happening.  I'm never going to have the dream mom like I see others have.  My mom isn't ever going to be my friend and co-hort.  She's always lived her own life and there have been periods when I was working that we never connected but for me to take her shopping (she doesn't drive).  I know she loves me - it's just the way she is and has nothing to do with me.

When you ask that question, you can then begin to let go of the craziness.  It's what I kept telling my girlfriend about her son ... his ex-wife (as of last week) stole 6 months of the mortgage payments before she left him, tried to get custody of the 1 dog, took him for over $900 plus whatever she wanted from the house -- however, she made his life miserable before she signed the divorce papers.  The stress was putting him in the hospital -- he was losing 2-3 pints of blood .. since the divorce, he's not been feeling it. He now knows what his limitations are and he knows that he can get back everything .. cause they were just material things.  and guess what!  no word about him having to be admitted into the emergency room for the last 2 weeks. 

I may go with him to look for furniture on the garbage night out in the suburbs -- I need a new living room couch!  hee hee .....  

And remember, working with family and friends is hard work -- however, it's worth it in the end because once we work thru our fears and WHAT IFs ... we all soo discover it's all been lies and they still love us even though we aren't the same people we once were .. we are better!