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September 1, 2007, 9:54 am PDT

Confuesed? have you raised any children of your own?

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Hmmm... I don't promote violence at the best of times, especially when it comes to kids, but I think sometimes a kid could really use a good old fashioned spanking... I know I never acted like that when I was a kid, because if I were to, my dad would have had his belt off and I'd be running!!

 

Seriously though... either those kids have something seriously wrong with their upbringing, or they have some sort of mental or behavioral disorder. I was shocked when I saw the previews for this show, and I'm actually not sure if I'm looking forward to watching it or not... but I'll be glued to the TV when it airs!!!!!

Wow, you have never than had a children that you try to spank, take things away, give time outs too and nothing works.

 

Please Do Not put people down unless you have been there yourself!!

 

From A Loving Mother Of 7
 
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September 1, 2007, 11:12 am PDT

09/04 Violent Kids

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Hmmm... I don't promote violence at the best of times, especially when it comes to kids, but I think sometimes a kid could really use a good old fashioned spanking... I know I never acted like that when I was a kid, because if I were to, my dad would have had his belt off and I'd be running!!

 

Seriously though... either those kids have something seriously wrong with their upbringing, or they have some sort of mental or behavioral disorder. I was shocked when I saw the previews for this show, and I'm actually not sure if I'm looking forward to watching it or not... but I'll be glued to the TV when it airs!!!!!

Of course here we go again, blaming the parents for what is wrong with their children.  I hope when you watch the show you learn something about these children.  This response shows that the stigma and blame for children with mental health issues is alive and well!!  What a shame, when is this going to change.

 
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September 1, 2007, 1:31 pm PDT

ok - not in today's society!

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Hmmm... I don't promote violence at the best of times, especially when it comes to kids, but I think sometimes a kid could really use a good old fashioned spanking... I know I never acted like that when I was a kid, because if I were to, my dad would have had his belt off and I'd be running!!

 

Seriously though... either those kids have something seriously wrong with their upbringing, or they have some sort of mental or behavioral disorder. I was shocked when I saw the previews for this show, and I'm actually not sure if I'm looking forward to watching it or not... but I'll be glued to the TV when it airs!!!!!

 Yes, I agree with how we would have behaved as kids.  My middle son, now 14 is very much like this.  I had and still sometimes have a bad temper -people make me so mad sometimes that I could easily punch them and think nothing of it, but somewhere inside me is this thing called rationalism - I forethink the consequences.  I think this is missing from my 14 son - I have written Dr. Phil many times asking for help.  He has been like this since about 2 - we've tried the punishment thing - you could spank him, but you would really have to hurt him to get through.  I was seriously afraid I would because he was not phased and here in my area, Family children services would have a hay day with this - it's not like it was when we were younger.  I was afraid of my dad, we weren't spanked, we were beat - perhaps that is why I would not dare act this way - fear!  But, like I said, you can't do this today or you'll lose your kids and perhaps face jail time and honestly after being raised this way, I could not do that to my son.  We just had an outburst the other day, he threatened to throw a chair at me and the words he yelled - had his father been home, he may have beat him.  He has had these around his dad, but not as severe as with me.   When he was younger I took him to the pediatrician - he told me tie his hands with a soft cloth and hold him through the tantrum, and just repeat "I love you" to him over and over.  I don't know what my son heard but for a while he was real calm.  He would ask me if he was being good, I would tell him yes, he would then ask if I was going to do what the Dr. said to do, I would say no, because I didn't need to just then.  Like I said, that worked for a time, and then he started it up again.  I would put him in his room(sometimes physically had to)  and hold the door, tell him he could calm down and then come out.  Well, now I'm at a loss, he is way stronger than me now.  Look forward to the show.
 
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September 2, 2007, 5:11 pm PDT

Kids with Tempers/Underlying concerns

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Hmmm... I don't promote violence at the best of times, especially when it comes to kids, but I think sometimes a kid could really use a good old fashioned spanking... I know I never acted like that when I was a kid, because if I were to, my dad would have had his belt off and I'd be running!!

 

Seriously though... either those kids have something seriously wrong with their upbringing, or they have some sort of mental or behavioral disorder. I was shocked when I saw the previews for this show, and I'm actually not sure if I'm looking forward to watching it or not... but I'll be glued to the TV when it airs!!!!!

Thank goodness you weren't troubled and are perfect.  My Dad didn't stand for bad behaviour when I was young either.........but let's look at the message the child is trying to say, but has no idea how to express it.  We have to look past the end product and work hard at finding the source of the problem.  Not an easy task.

 

I have a daughter struggling with what sounds, thank goodness not as severe a problem, though has difficulty.  I identified just last night with her that I had moments of FRUSTRATION, ANGER BUILD UP when I was young.  Sense of like mind understanding, and letting her know, that I am there beside her to work with her to learn new coping strategies.

 

Take care.  We need to open our minds and hearts up. 

 
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September 5, 2007, 9:09 am PDT

WHAT?

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Hmmm... I don't promote violence at the best of times, especially when it comes to kids, but I think sometimes a kid could really use a good old fashioned spanking... I know I never acted like that when I was a kid, because if I were to, my dad would have had his belt off and I'd be running!!

 

Seriously though... either those kids have something seriously wrong with their upbringing, or they have some sort of mental or behavioral disorder. I was shocked when I saw the previews for this show, and I'm actually not sure if I'm looking forward to watching it or not... but I'll be glued to the TV when it airs!!!!!

As much as I really wanted to watch this entire episode....I couldn't...I LIVE IT EVERYDAY....my 12 yr old has been this way since he was 6....and yes I have done doctors...meds...temp. psy lock up for stabilazation....you name it..I have done it....

 

yea I have heard for years...all he needs is his a** tore up and he will behave...

 

And have heard that its all "my fault" even though I have 2 other children who don't have these problems and are usually very well behaved.

 

YOU HAVE NO CLUE!!!!!!!...sorry....but you don't...and I don't mean to offend...any kind of corporal punishment usually results in MUCH WORSE violent behavior.   My son was just turned down to attend the OUTDOOR THERAPUTIC PROGRAM and honestly at this point I don't know what I am going to do.....his therapist has pretty much given up and his psy doctor doesn't know what else to do since he will not swallow his meds and if he does he can hold them in his throat and throw them up......so you know what choices I am getting now from the so called 'PROFESSIONALS'....well you need to sue the state of GA for not pressing charges against you for all the "domestic violence" he commits.....and you need to press them to lock him up...or you just need to go to DFACS and turn him over to the state....

 

I am scared my son will get their attention for sure one day when he kills me one night or walks into a school one day and kills a lot of people....

 

SPANKING DOES NOT FIX THIS!!! AND IT DOESN'T CHANGE IT
 
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