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September 1, 2007, 8:10 pm PDT
Her being dead doesn't heal your pain!
Quote From: got4au Wish my mother-in-law was still alive to watch this one. She made similar comments about my husband when we were first married. That's hard to get over. Makes you wonder what really went on when my husband was growing up! The husband must stand up for his wife. Wish mine had. It's been 33 years of marriage but it still hurts even though my mother-in-law has been gone for 16 years. I'm sure Dr. Phil would tell me to move on but I know my husband hasn't really "heard" me and he definitely hasn't apologized for the past. Such a mama's boy, even now! I so wish that your husband would 'hear' what you have to say and back you up, even though the situation is over, however, you need to forgive your mother-in-law for your own sake and for the sake of your marriage. You are still letting her have power over you, even though she is not around anymore. How hard it is to let go of past hurts, but you need to look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that it was not your fault and that you are a worthy and good wife for your husband, as I'm sure you are. Someone said here that husbands are made to make a choice between their wives and their mothers. I don't agree. That choice was made on the day they got married. A husband 'leaves' his family and starts a new one with his wife. If all is amicable then it is great to have an extended family, and so beneficial for the children to have grandparents in their lives, but otherwise, the husband and wife and their children are the family.
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