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September 4, 2007, 12:35 pm PDT
We don't spank, and our kids are great
Quote From: jpealsI think regardless of Dr. Spock or Dr. Phil's philosphy we are seeing today the product of no spanking no discipline in our society and in our families. Children arent made to do chores in a lot of homes in fear its child abuse so the children have no way to get their feelings worked out they have no way to learn pride and do anything other than sitting and being a fat couch potato. A good old fashioned spanking wasnt something i looked forward too. i prayed many times that mom would forget to tell dad when he got home but i got it anyway. but i did my chores even in the dark if i was lazy playing during the day and i grew up to be a good mother and grandmother and hard working person. obeying the laws of the land. But i was also raised in church and that is the biggest difference from today. if they went to church they would know the Bible said to not spare the rod. but our jails and prisons are overflowing with young and old who didnt mind their parents or the laws of the land. its a shame when a parent sits and allows a child to do the controlling. i just want to know who the parent is in this family. they gave the child life but they arent the parent. You don't need to spank or otherwise assault kids to teach them right from wrong, and it scares me to read messages like that one.
We have five children. The two older ones are find, upstanding young adults who did well in college, the two teenagers seem to be happy and have never been in trouble at school or with the law, and the youngest one was recognized as his class's citizen of the year.
In otherwords, they all seem well-adjusted, and none of them are a behavior problem. Yet we never spanked any of them.
The key isn't beating on kids; it's respecting them as human beings created by God, listening to them, setting a good example and giving kids the gentle guidance that's needed.
There still are no guarantees, and we still have to get to the teen years for one of our kids! But teaching kids that hitting kids solves problems isn't the way to go.
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