Quote From: ritehere Don't be afraid. The past is in the past. Even if you would rather avoid the emotions connected to certain memories you realize that they have a way of surfacing anyway correct? So you're not really avoiding them at all when you deny them, you're only burying them so that they will erupt and cause dysfunction in an erratic and surprising way.
When you choose to examine them, you take control of them. You look at them purposely and at you're own pace, and therefore have control over them. It is the first step in putting them in a place where they no longer control YOU.
Expect to cry, feel anger, sadness, frustration, and loss. The way I did chapter 4 was to go into a separate room, close the door and unplug the phone. I told my family that I needed time alone and not to disturb me unless it was a real emergency. (I told them that I wouldn't come out unless I smelled smoke or saw blood seeping under the door!) I went through a big box of kleenex and I'm sure I looked a mess, but it was cleansing.
Please don't give up, chapter 4 digs up all the memories, chapter 5 will give you insight as to why you made the decisions that haunt you. You will work through your past in a way that will free you forever.
To bury the past is best when half the people are
no longer living. This book sounds incredible.
Checking to see if there's a copy online.
Thank you
