Replies to '10/05 Moms: Cut the Chaos'

How are you dealing with that?  Hmmmm.  That is a loaded question that probably can't be answered in 2 seconds.  But 2 second answer:  I am emotionally detached.  The let him do all the cooking idea is perhaps a good one.  I think in this long time he has done that for a 4 month period.  I think he had trouble grocery shopping because he didn't do coupons and bought expensive packaged stuff.  Like he didn't buy ingredients he needed for recipes.  I don't really cook for him.  And on my days to cook for the kids:   He will still say things:  Like "the kids don't like that."  He tells them what they like and don't like.  I don't think it is about his likes and dislikes.  I think it is a power and control thing.  Because if I made hamburgers he wants spaghetti and if I make spaghetti he wants hamburgers.  A few years ago every day for 3 months he would go to the store during dinner and buy a box of cereal.  Well took me awhile but near the end of the 3 months I said ya know what I am going to serve him a bowl of cereal for dinner.  And thinking I outsmarted this situation:  he said Oh no I need 2 % milk and he got up and went to the store and bought it.  The next day I served him cereal with his 2% milk and he said No he didn't like that kind of cereal and got up and went out and bought a different kind of cereal.  **sigh**  But I know this isn't my problem, but his.  I am more worried as I see my kids do certain things like this.  And of course he loves it because they are like him.  This even happens when we go out to dinner.  The food gets sent back.  He doesn't think this is a problem and thinks most women would love the arrangement which he lets me know......  Like I said I wish I could call someone and they would show up and handle it.