Quote From: mamacathI understand this in theory but have trouble putting this into practice. My mil lives with us, and my husband has no backbone - not with her and not with me either. It affects my respect for him and it causes problems with my mil. When she oversteps her bounds, I either have to suck it up or deal with it. He doesn't. It's gotten to the point where I think we'll end up divorced because he can't "man up."
I can relate to a MIL that lives with you! It's not a workable situation. Esp. if you have a husband that blatantly puts his precious mother before you. Yes, ladies my - hopefully one-day ex-husband actually told me that he would always put his mother before me & that would never change. She lived with us for about 1 1/2 years after her house burned and she robbed me of bonding time with my daughter when she was an infant. My self-esteem and confidence wasn't very high and I've built myself back up after several years. My daughter is now 7 and I've been going through 2 1/2 years battle of a divorce. My MIL and my husband acted as if I was a contributing factor, necessary to provide a child, and then treated me as if they wanted me out of the picture totally so they could raise my daughter - but I know, that's probably another show. Him and his mother and her side of the family are 90% chemically imbalanced and I feel like I've left the mob! So I sympathize with those that are under the intimidation and control of others outside of their Godly and intimate bond of marriage. You all are in my prayers!
