Replies to '09/03 Who's the Evil-Doer?'

Quote From: lauriew

I'm very dissapointed with your evil motherinlaw stories today. I wrote to you several months ago, explaining my situation. But, I didn't have a trashy story. I never got a response. I got along very well with my son's girl, for quite a long time, until the wedding was being planned. Then I was being treated as a 5th grader with responses to situations. My son's wife is a grade school teacher and very meticulous with details. To make a long story short after being told by her how to raise my other son (he was 23 at the time) to being scolded for not having my invitation list in on time (6 months before) I had a shower for them, which she wanted my son to open the gifts, because it was "HIS SHOWER" and she was very snobby to all the guests who were meeting her for the first time. It finally came down to an argument that I told her what evereyone thought of her at the shower and that she was a disgrase to the family... so I was not able to attend my first born's wedding, even after apologizing for my opart in thew arguement. I was told it wasnt sincere. Only I could be wrong! After 3 1/2 years they are finally having a baby. No relationship... and when I contacted my son to seeif he still accepts me as a mother.. welll I was again scolded for going behind her back. I was reminded that "he is her husband now!" So when we tried to make amends, at a meeting with my ex and his wife, my son and the daughterinlaw, and me, I was first told...Being a mother is a priveledge and that I need to earn my child's respect.... To make a long story shorter, she didn't want to let me even know about the pregnancy, and is worried I will say negative stuff about her to the child. I was told I was forgiven, but have not heard from them since(a couple of months ago) and I was told she doesnt forget WORDS. Oh...did I mention, Her parents had to disinvolve themselves with her father's parents, years ago because they are "disfunctional"
I do have a step grandaughter that I get to spend all my grandma time with.. I am heartbroken that I probably will never know my first grandchild. But I do not rock the boat, I say what I am supposed to say, and I listen to what her opinions are. (I do not express mine) My son has been forced to make a choice. A mother you can always return to, but sever your relationship with your mate... it is done.
I am truly crushed within my soul, with the whole situation, especilally that everything I have dreamt of becoming a grandma, will never come true.

Quote From: lauriew

I'm very dissapointed with your evil motherinlaw stories today. I wrote to you several months ago, explaining my situation. But, I didn't have a trashy story. I never got a response. I got along very well with my son's girl, for quite a long time, until the wedding was being planned. Then I was being treated as a 5th grader with responses to situations. My son's wife is a grade school teacher and very meticulous with details. To make a long story short after being told by her how to raise my other son (he was 23 at the time) to being scolded for not having my invitation list in on time (6 months before) I had a shower for them, which she wanted my son to open the gifts, because it was "HIS SHOWER" and she was very snobby to all the guests who were meeting her for the first time. It finally came down to an argument that I told her what evereyone thought of her at the shower and that she was a disgrase to the family... so I was not able to attend my first born's wedding, even after apologizing for my opart in thew arguement. I was told it wasnt sincere. Only I could be wrong! After 3 1/2 years they are finally having a baby. No relationship... and when I contacted my son to seeif he still accepts me as a mother.. welll I was again scolded for going behind her back. I was reminded that "he is her husband now!" So when we tried to make amends, at a meeting with my ex and his wife, my son and the daughterinlaw, and me, I was first told...Being a mother is a priveledge and that I need to earn my child's respect.... To make a long story shorter, she didn't want to let me even know about the pregnancy, and is worried I will say negative stuff about her to the child. I was told I was forgiven, but have not heard from them since(a couple of months ago) and I was told she doesnt forget WORDS. Oh...did I mention, Her parents had to disinvolve themselves with her father's parents, years ago because they are "disfunctional"
I do have a step grandaughter that I get to spend all my grandma time with.. I am heartbroken that I probably will never know my first grandchild. But I do not rock the boat, I say what I am supposed to say, and I listen to what her opinions are. (I do not express mine) My son has been forced to make a choice. A mother you can always return to, but sever your relationship with your mate... it is done.
I am truly crushed within my soul, with the whole situation, especilally that everything I have dreamt of becoming a grandma, will never come true.