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I too have gone through this. I am younger than you and your boyfriend, but I think it is the same thing. What is it though that he is doing on the computer? I ask because if he is just playing games or other business that is one thing, but if it more pleasureful things that may need other advice that I cannot give. My boyfriend had a problem with playing video games continuously, by that I mean any chance he had he was playing them, we only have one TV so I had nothing to do but sit and watch him if I wanted to spend any time with him. I got to the point that I fought with him every time and became very jealous of the video games. I know it sounds stupid but it is like the other woman in a way all of his time is going to that. I know all men are different and age changes things, but I just sat my boyfriend down and talked to him about it. Also, maybe try to get someone who sees it from your point of view that your boyfriend would be willing to listen to to talk to him. My boyfriends' mother helped me out. Now though there is another woman in his life, the computer. I tell him alot that I didn't get into a serious relationship with the TV or by myself. I was also in another relationship where the affection was never there and let me tell you that didn't change for me. I stayed for 5 years and never any changes. I'm sorry if that is not the advice you were looking for, but overall all I can say is you have to talk to him and if he doesn't take the time or effort to understand your feelings than maybe you should think about if that is really how you want to be treated. The best advice I ever got was " you can't change a man unless he wants to change himself." Easy I know but very true. Good luck!

I had a very similar situation, but I was married for  4 years.  Eventually, he was medically and psychologically diagnosed as "asexual."  It happens - move on.