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October 5, 2005, 3:16 pm PDT
 Quote From: mommy1019 I am a stay at home mom of fraternal twin girls! They will be one october 19th! I am also back in college finsihing my degree! My life is hectic to say the least! My fiance works during the day and when he comes home he feels he has to do nothing because he works and when his day is over thats it. I RARELY get any help from him and if i do he complains the whole time. He NEVER watches the girls so i can go out and have time to myself i have 3 hours a week to myself and that is when im in school. The only time i get to relax is when the girls are sleeping and that is when i am usually doing my homework and then bed. My fiance feels i dont contribute anything so i have no room to speak up because i dont work. HUH!! If he only knew! On the weekends he sleeps in and does not wake up with me and the girls because that is his only time to sleep in is on the weekends! When do i get to sleep in? NEVER! It is so frustrating because i dont know what to do. We have been to counseling and that worked for awhile until it got too expensive and we had to stop going. We had three sesions a week, each of us single and then one together and we were paying almost $100 a week, We couldnt afford that anymore with twins and only one income. So we are right back to where we started. I just hope one day it gets better! Any advice!
Tired mom of twins Stephanie I completely understand your life, we have 5 kids ages 16, 15, 14, 11 and 3 and I do daycare for 4 other children as well as have two different medical transcription jobs and go to school, and like you my 4 hours a week at school are my time alone and trust me I hear about how "hard" it is on my husband on those nights even though I have a dinner cooked and ready to be served before I leave for school. My day starts at 3:45AM and usually does not end until about 12:30 or 1:00AM I love my husband dearly and he is my best friend but I am so so incredibly tired all the time and to get him to do anything without it becoming a major issue and complaint is so hard that it is easier to just do things myself. And most of the time this holds true with the kids too, what Dr. Phil said about them just doing it wrong or poorly just to get out of it is so true and it works unfortunately. I know Dr. Phil would say to downsize etc. to work less but I already drive an older car and we barely have enough room in our house as it is so really I don't know what else to do either. We also tried counseling really to no avail and like you could not really afford it. So like you any advice out there??? |
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