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September 9, 2007, 7:26 pm PDT
School Issues
Quote From: profmaryannFirst, who gave you the ADD diagnosis, your pediatrician or a psychologist? If the former, I would strongly recommend a battery of psychological testing to determine whether you are dealing w/ADD (IMO, it may not be, or it may be mild ADD coupled with loads of anxiety and/or depression). The anger, the opposition, part of that is the approach of puberty, much of it suggests other issues.
Sad to say, the difference in house rules between you & your son's father may be causing much of the problem. Do you & your ex- get along well, or do you believe the ex- is telling your son stuff behind your back? I know from my own experience that my daugher (the same age/grade as your son) seems to act up more when her dad is having "issues" with me, or vice versa. We went though a HORRIBLE patch 3 years ago when I was pregnant w/her brother & her dad (& then stepmother) decided to make LOTS of trouble. Her anger got taken out on me in fights over schoolwork.
Your son is yelling (literally) for help. Please do not delay in getting appropriate help, but know with what you are dealing.
Thanks for your suggestions and concern. His pediatrician finally dignosed him as ADD and it's only slight. He just has a hard time sitting still and focusing thru school. I do think it is a combo of all the other you suggested and the verge of puberty. His dad and I get along for the face of it. I have tried and tried and I get the response I want to hear, but as soon as he's in his dad's house it's all voided out. It's your typical B. S. to basically get me out of his ear, and to make me think he's doing all he can. So I really have given up on trying to work with him. I do keep him really informed of these issues, but how he handles it is up to him. I just have to focus when I do have him, which is 80% of the time. I won't delay and have set up a psychologist apt., for this Friday. I just want ideas on how to handle it as I am lost. I do feel like I have tried everything, but if there is something I missed I would be happy to hear about it. As all moms I want only what's best for him and to succeed in life, and life should not be this hard for an 11 year old (in two days). Thanks again, I do appreciate you responding.
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