Replies to '12/26 The Nanny Affair, Part 1'

Not only are you repeating yourself about things you know NOTHING ABOUT since you are single......but you are bashing people that you know NOTHING about. I don't judge. I leave that up to God. I do however, speak the TRUTH about what I KNOW and again.....I know BOTH Brandon & Amy so I KNOW what I'm talking about. Stick to the things you know young man. Love, marriage, kids.....those are definitely things you know nothing about yet.

I would have to disagree with you.  It takes two to cheat.  If she didn't know he was married, then I could see how you would say “the other women should never be bashed".  But she knew he was married and chose to make her self available to him. 

Here is an analogy for you....You see a box on the side of the road…I would venture to say most would leave the box alone regardless of their income….now say I tell you that box was full of a million dollars….now you are tempted to look into it and maybe even take the money.

It goes the same for a married man/woman.  Normally they look but don’t touch.  Now let’s say that single attractive female/male shows him/her some attention and makes them feel young and vibe rant…now the married person is tempted to cheat.

We as single people need to take the temptation out of it by not engaging with unavailable people.  It’s that simple.  I pride myself as a single woman to check for rings, tan lines on the ring finger, indentations on the ring finger, rings on the watches or necklaces, as well as asking co-workers (Friends may lie). 

I refuse to be “The Other Woman”.  There are too many fish in the sea to mess with a man that is taken.

Yes, I know if someone is compelled to cheat he/she will….but if I can be one less distraction from a taken man then I will.  I have to look at myself in the mirror and refuse to stoop to that level.

I don't think anyone should ever judge anyone per se, but they have the right to voice an opinion.  My husband was in a 5 year afair, not with an nanny, but a co-worker so I know how the wife feels.  It takes two to make the affair.  In this case and mine, the other woman knew the man was married and choose to begin a relationship.  She's needs to accept and take accountability for what she did.

In my case, my husband did but she refused to take any responsibility, saying she thought he was separated.  He told her he was married and didn't want to leave me, always having to leave and never being able to spend the night, having sex in the back seat of her car, motel room, etc.  They could never be seen in public, but still claimed she was a victim, even had her mother email me telling me what a cad my husband was for leading her poor daughter on.  This woman is 35 and having her mother defend her.

The other woman needs to take responsibility.  In the nanny case, if she is old enough to care for children she should know the difference between right and wrong!