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I think we need to approach teens and sex with the same message we approach them with about drugs and smoking.  we are strong with our teachings that these are UNHEALTHYand often DANGEROUS behaviors.  teens having sex is also dangerous, especially younger teens and adolescents.   

We don't tell kids, "you shouldn't smoke, but if you decide to go ahead, here are some light cigarettes."  We send the message, "Don't Smoke!"  Kids need to know that sexual activity may lead to STDs and AIDs, AND that Condoms DO NOT fully protect them.  Also, STDs or not, pregnancy or not, there are serious EMOTIONAL and PSYCHOLOGICAL consequences that go along with early sexual activity.   WHY are we telling our kids that it's ok if they make that decision, just use a condom???  That's like telling them it's ok to use drugs, just be careful about it.  that would be irresponsible, not to mention insane!  

IF a girl were to be assaulted, it is doubtful that the perpetrator would use a condom.  It's usually not about the sex, but about control. Also, since you mentioned that argument, IF she were to take him to court, he could use that against her, calling it consent...but that's a whole other issue.   

No, I think our girls need to be protected by family members, fathers, education and self esteem.  Don't give your daughters a water pistol, then send them into a hungry lion's den.   

  

  

Don't you think giving the attacker the condom would be giving him permission to carry through this sick thing. and as some one else mentioned, it could backfire on her and he can convince the courts that she agreed to it and remind them that it was HER that handed him the condom. NOT a good idea. I would rather my girls fight back and leave scratch marks, scream and yell and draw attention and whatever else they can do to get way from this guy and to leave evidence of the attack, not to give in and say, "o by the way, here is a condom to help protect YOU". just another way to protect the criminal I think and to punish the victim.

This doesn't sound silly to me at all but just sooooooo smart!   I'd actually heard a woman who once just asked her attacker to wear a condom & he did it!  But bullies are usually petrified at being hurt themselves & I'd think telling them you've an STD could really motivate them to use a condom. 

 Maybe not such a good idea. Some women have done that and the rapist got off because it was taken as agreeing to the sex.

Besides wouldn't a woman with AIDS actually want to pass it on in that situation?