Quote From: housewife52And I'd say sometimes affairs happen for the reasons you stated. But in other cases, I think men (or women) just can't resist temptation. I think sometimes it's just the nature of the human beast. But like DrP always says, you don't turn away from the spouse and go outside of the marriage looking for solace. I'd say it only makes things worse to do that.Best of luck to you.
A lot of my friends are recently divorced because of affairs. I think a lot of it is learned behavior or something in one's childhood that makes them think that it's okay. People don't think before they act. They want instant gratification and they want it yesterday. If everything isn't rosy over here, let me go try over there. One of my friends decided to stay with her husband even after the third affair!!! She trusts him this time.....they have three little girls and are highly education people. These girls are going to have the same thing happen to them. Men (and women) need to step up and grow up. Life isn't all green grass and roses. Crap happens and couples need to turn to each other instead of finding someone else outside of their marriages. My husband and I have been married for 23 years. He and I were both taught by our parents on how to be married and raise a family. Though my father-in-law is rough on the outside, he's the one who taught my husband (who watched him for 24 years) on how to be a respectful husband and a caring father. That's what boys need now days. We are the parents of five boys....great kids....respectful, successful....and hopefully, and I have no doubt, they will be great dads and husbands one of these days.
