Replies to '12/26 The Nanny Affair, Part 1'

I don't know what you mean by love and friendship should be "unconditional"?  So no matter what someone does, a friend should never offer an opinion about the behavior in question?  To me, a real friend should be honest, even when the truth hurts.  If I saw a friend killing herself with drugs or alcohol, I would say something.  And if the friend refused to deal with the problem, I would have to say to her "Look, I'm your friend and I love you, but I can't stick around and watch you hurt yourself this way anymore.  When you decide to deal with the problem, I will be there to support and help you 100 percent."

I'd react the same way if one of my friends was married to a man who cheated on her with the teenage nanny, and she continued to delude herself that he'd "change"!

When you say friends are for SUPPORT you clearly mean ENABLING.  If you care about a friend you don't let them walk off the cliff and say, "I support your decision".  Duh!  You try to stop them.  This man has said he would like to kill his wife and has it all planned out to put her in concrete and dump her where she can't be found.  Of COURSE the friend would get involved.  She doesn't want Amy to end up dead.  And she is clearly frantic with worry about her because Amy has her head up her nether regions where this loser is concerned.

Why are so many others on this board so fixated with why Heidi lives with Amy and The Loser?  I've had my dearest female friend live with me before when she was in a transitional period in her life.   She's like a sister to me, and when a sister needs a place to stay, you provide it if you can.   Obviously Amy and Heidi are extremely close friends, there should be no mystery as to why Amy offered her home.