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October 6, 2005, 3:37 am PDT
 Quote From: punkbabies Okay...I am going to count to ten before I respond to this one.......
Well, aren't you just a selfless martyr?? You and your husband work and go to school and you have ONE child. Please....I work and go to school and I have three children, ages 3, 2 , and 3 months old. NONE of my children were planned, apparently my body metaboizes birth control too quickly so it is much less effective. Didn't realize this till after we'd tried several. Not only this, but, my husband left me for some bimbo co-worker when I was 5 months pregnant with the youngest and on bedrest. What makes you think that all of these women planned on having three or four children? You have no right to judge that until you ask them. Things happen. And don't even get me started on the comment that a husband/father shouldn't help out just b/c the mom is a stay-at-home-mom. The husband can clock in and out of his job. Once he leaves the office, he's done for the day and has no further obligation for that day. An average husband will work 40-60 hours per week. It is sooo different for a mother! Mom doesn't get to clock out and just say, "I'm done for the day!" A mother is on call 24/7. She is a chauffer, a chef, maid, nurse, teacher, accountant, personal assistant...among many other things I'm sure. Now, my father actually APPRECIATED this about my mother and went and added up all of the things she did and how much time she spent doing them. He then figured out how much she would be paid based on the average salary for each of these professions. He found that it was four times his salary and he made VERY good money. The old saying is true: A mother's work is never done. I have more going on than some of the others here, but I would NEVER consider berating or judging them based on my personal experiance. Its not right and certainly not fair. I am a stay-at-home mom of 2. Yes, a mother's job is never done- on call 24/7. We had our first child when I was 19 & he was 22 in the Army and we were not married. We got married and it was very very hard on us, so we waited to have anymore kids. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out how kids are concieved...so use protection if you don't want a lot of kids & so close in age. That's just life, stop complaining and deal with it. If you are angry about your life how do you think your kids are feeling about it. They know when you are not happy. If things are organized, it won't be perfect, but it will make things better. I think the husband should help out ( at times, but not all the time). My husband has his share - he gets the oil changed in the car, makes sure the lawnmower is working etc. He may not clean the house but there is more to it than keeping the house clean. My husband does appreciate what I do. He had to handle things here for 3 days when I had our son (C-section) and he said would never want to do my job. He said he cleaned the kitchen in the morning and it was dirty a couple of hours later and doesn't have a clue how it happened. But anyway.......it's a good thing to have an outlet to rant and rave about our daily lives but in the end, if you enjoy being there for your kids than it's worth it. I don't want to have to tell my daughter that I can't come to a school function because I am working. I'm one of the things that she will remember when she's grown up is that her mom was always there when she needed me. Just enjoy what you have, talk to your husband and come up with a plan that will work for you both. After reading some of this posts, my life doesn't seem so bad. |
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October 6, 2005, 9:41 am PDT
Quote From: punkbabies Okay...I am going to count to ten before I respond to this one.......
Well, aren't you just a selfless martyr?? You and your husband work and go to school and you have ONE child. Please....I work and go to school and I have three children, ages 3, 2 , and 3 months old. NONE of my children were planned, apparently my body metaboizes birth control too quickly so it is much less effective. Didn't realize this till after we'd tried several. Not only this, but, my husband left me for some bimbo co-worker when I was 5 months pregnant with the youngest and on bedrest. What makes you think that all of these women planned on having three or four children? You have no right to judge that until you ask them. Things happen. And don't even get me started on the comment that a husband/father shouldn't help out just b/c the mom is a stay-at-home-mom. The husband can clock in and out of his job. Once he leaves the office, he's done for the day and has no further obligation for that day. An average husband will work 40-60 hours per week. It is sooo different for a mother! Mom doesn't get to clock out and just say, "I'm done for the day!" A mother is on call 24/7. She is a chauffer, a chef, maid, nurse, teacher, accountant, personal assistant...among many other things I'm sure. Now, my father actually APPRECIATED this about my mother and went and added up all of the things she did and how much time she spent doing them. He then figured out how much she would be paid based on the average salary for each of these professions. He found that it was four times his salary and he made VERY good money. The old saying is true: A mother's work is never done. I have more going on than some of the others here, but I would NEVER consider berating or judging them based on my personal experiance. Its not right and certainly not fair. First of all my husband is in the fire department and works 24 hours, so I do know alittle something about what it's like to be alone the kid doing everything! I'm not a martyr... I don't believe I said that a man shouldn't help out. I believe I said that all things things should be discussed before entering into a marriage that you know the man expects alot and the woman should do everything. I have a brother in law like that. I don't think it's right and I don't agree with it. What I'm saying is that women that don't work really shouldn't be complaining about all the work they do. There are plenty of women out there like myself do all of that and work outside the home and have other activities. Understand??? Get a grip! |
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