Quote From: lcnekwI too just signed up for some advice and trust me it helps. I also had a drug problem and people in my life wanted me to quit. I can tell you though nagging or hassling him about it is not going to help. The best thing to do is talk to him. Honestly tell him everything you said in your letter. Tell him how it is more for your son than anything. Ask if this is the life he would want his son to live? Try to get through to him without putting him down or making him feel bad about it. Compliment him and tell him you are proud that he is putting the effort in but let him know you are not so naive as to believe that he is completely drug free. Help him as much as possible with the help that he needs and more than anything just be there for him to talk to, don't push him away because of his problem, and remember it is a problem, I am sure that if he is trying to quit he does not want to do it. Good luck!
Thanks for your suggestions. You know I've tried all the things you've mentioned and I feel like I don't get anywhere, this is why I feel I should kick him out. I've been there for him in the past and I feel I've been putting my all into it and he doesn't bother to meet me half way. I've expressed how he has the strength to quit and that he can do anything, as long as he wants it to happen. It irrates me when he comes home from evening GED classes and his eyes are red and I question him about it and he says, "My eyes are red because I'm tire." Same excuse all the time. And now, to get of the marijuana smell he smokes a cigarrette before coming home so he can disguise the small. This guy never used to smoke cigarrettes on a daily basis and now he does coincidently. I just feel like I'm at the end of the rope and I'm just hanging on...why? I don know.
